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[Tony Angastiniotis]

Though I was planning to deal with Fanos on a personal level, eyeball to eyeball, in the office we share, the fact that he indirectly addressed to me when he was talking to Lena with expressions like “common friend” and “T.A”, and the with Lenas answers leaves me with no other choice but to make a small intrusion in the forum to express unfortunately in public what I intended to express privately.

Though Fanos gave me many opportunities to confront him, I never did so because his actions were not directly relating to other people. When Lena told me that he asked for money through the Forum for his daughter I had very strong doubts about it for reasons that I will explain. Fanos, you may hate me for what I will say or you can go and ask for some professional help, because mythomania, also known as pseudologia fantastica or pathological lying is something modern psychology today can help. My son had also this problem that’s why I researched the matter and also got professional help and helped him overcome it. This link will help you http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/home ... ption.html

The first sign
When Fanos came to the University to apply for a job he spoke for long hours of his great achievements in journalism and great scandals he uncovered in Greece. Many things seemed exaggerations but we always give the benefit of doubt. I thought for a man of so many great achievements all I needed was to google both the names he had given to me (Because he said he used another name when he worked in Greece). Nothing came up but one article in Cyprus Mail. Then I emailed to some friends journalists in Greece, nobody knew him. Then I contacted journalists in Cyprus. The reply from some that knew him was the same: Don’t believe anything he says. Though I knew all these, I suggested to the university to employ him knowing his hard financial situation. I have not regretted this even as I am writing now this letter.

Another lie I discovered was when he was saying that he will be arrested if he passes to the South because he works in BRT. I am working in EMU for almost 2 years, the police in the gates know who I am, and many times gave me a hard time but there is no legal ground to arrest me, or arrest Fanos because we are working in the North. I cross every week and I believe it is the North that will one day close the door to me rather than the South because I do and say things the Turkish army doesn’t like and it is the army rules in the barricades...and beyond. Nobody is persecuting us though many may dislike us. Fanos can be arrested but not for political reasons but family reasons but that’s not my job to reveal.

Another very serious error from Fanos, the most serious for me, was the attempt to pinch the article of Alkan Chaglar and claim it as his own. Obviously Fanos did not know who Alkan is or he wouldn’t attempt something so stupid. Alkan, who is also my friend, is one of the best journalists of Toplum Postasi and I respect him for his integrity and his commitment to the peace process in Cyprus. I can forgive Fanos for all his lies because beyond doubt it is a pathological situation but stealing Alkan’s article it is for me unethical to forgive. I only hope Alkan will be merciful because this is a court case he will not loose if he goes to court.

Why I didn’t believe that Fanos needed money for his daughter? Because Fanos was with me in the morning and he was saying how he didn’t pay some police fines and he needed money. How is it that he was in the office talking to me for a long time about how he will try to prove the police wrong and didn’t say anything about his daughter, such a serious matter? Why didn’t she have an operation in the hospital for free if there is luck of finances in the family? Having all the above in mind and the witness of a good friend that saw him in a casino gambling a few weeks ago made me worry.

The whole situation with my involvement with the forum started when I left the mobile open and started to speak with my wife about him. 20 seconds after speaking my wife notice that the telephone was on but we decided to continue talking and shock him because I was looking for an opportunity to talk with him. After I finished with my wife, I took the phone and spoke to him but he didn’t reply thinking that I dint know he was listening so I called him back and he started talking about his daughter. I was not convinced. I shut the phone and enjoyed the rest of the trip with my wife joining our voices with great tunes from Bob Dylan.

I know that it’s a pathological case and you may become aggressive when exposed; I hope this will not be the case this time. (Observe how you answer to people that doubt you). Maybe many of you will want to comment on what I said and Fanos may start arguing against me. I do not plan to return to the forum and follow up the reactions, or try do defend my self. I am fully aware that I am a man with many errors, weaknesses and passions and perhaps some of my faults are greater than those of Fanos. Nevertheless love can not function without truth and truth without honesty.

I believe peace is not a political matter; it starts within the heart of the individual, but we must be willing to come face to face with our own nature. I know Fanos that for a time you may hate me but in the long run you will realise that I was giving you a chance for a new start. I believe that you can still correct things in your life and gain a better future. The moment you become a person publicly known you must be willing to accept public criticism. I was and I am also hardly criticised and at first I only tried to defend myself but later on I discovered that some of my critics had a point and I start changing to the better because of that universal principal “The truth will set us free”.

This is not about getting and returning money it’s about character and attitude. Everybody who knows me was wondering how I not speak to you this way long time ago, as my opinion is shared by a few people we know on a professional level… I wonder also. I am happy I did it now and please stop using that common friend thing, I am not part of this Forum or with Fanos getting or giving affairs… and now its time to return to my silence.

Tony Angastiniotis

Ps If you go to a casino they will call you a gambler especially if a students sees you play

[Get Real!]

Tony,

For the sake of the argument let's assume for a moment that your journo-psychological analysis of Fanos is medically spot-on.

What exactly are you hoping to achieve by publicly broadcasting to incalculable numbers of people reading this forum that the said person has such a problem?

I would expect a concerned and responsible person to do something positive that may help your troubled colleague, whatever his problem may be, instead of initiating a marketing campaign about him like another irresponsible and selfish fool opted for in another “marketing” thread.

Indeed, Fanos has problems and the first step to solving them is admitting that they exist so he is on the right track but unfortunately I can’t say the same for a few other people…

Self aggrandizement is much easier when there’s a sick fish in the tank to nibble on isn't that right Tony?

[LENA]

Tony,

For the sake of the argument let's assume for a moment that your journo-psychological analysis of Fanos is medically spot-on.

What exactly are you hoping to achieve by publicly broadcasting to incalculable numbers of people reading this forum that the said person has such a problem?

I would expect a concerned and responsible person to do something positive that may help your troubled colleague, whatever his problem may be, instead of initiating a marketing campaign about him like another irresponsible and selfish fool opted for in another “marketing” thread.

Indeed, Fanos has problems and the first step to solving them is admitting that they exist so he is on the right track but unfortunately I can’t say the same for a few other people…

Self aggrandizement is much easier when there’s a sick fish in the tank to nibble on isn't that right Tony?

Up there is a part that say

… and now its time to return to my silence.

Tony Angastiniotis

So I guess he will not come back to give you an answer!

[karma]

I joined this forum not to watch Tatiana's show on Greek TV..
this thread shld be locked too
Sigmund Freud will curse us..

[Niki]

Tony,

For the sake of the argument let's assume for a moment that your journo-psychological analysis of Fanos is medically spot-on.

What exactly are you hoping to achieve by publicly broadcasting to incalculable numbers of people reading this forum that the said person has such a problem?

I would expect a concerned and responsible person to do something positive that may help your troubled colleague, whatever his problem may be, instead of initiating a marketing campaign about him like another irresponsible and selfish fool opted for in another “marketing” thread.

Indeed, Fanos has problems and the first step to solving them is admitting that they exist so he is on the right track but unfortunately I can’t say the same for a few other people…

Self aggrandizement is much easier when there’s a sick fish in the tank to nibble on isn't that right Tony?

I can see your point GR but maybe he was trying to warn people. How could this be done without an explanation?

Only Fanos can prove his worth ultimately.

[LENA]

Trust me Niki, now he will pay! And now he will do his best!

[villawagen]

sorry who is tony agastiniotis anyway ?

[LENA]

sorry who is tony agastiniotis anyway ?

[villawagen]

sorry who is tony agastiniotis anyway ?

lena i really dont know is he the boss of this site or something ???

[karma]

sorry who is tony agastiniotis anyway ?

lena i really dont know is he the boss of this site or something ???

Nope, he used to be a friend..