I had a problem sleeping too, I could get off to sleep but then woke up and couldn't get back to sleep because I was thinking of all of the things that had been going on around me during the day, and dealing with berheavement. The doctor at the hospital suggested visualisation so I went to see a lady who has taught me relaxation techniques and I had one session of Reiki (which didn't help me), and have so far had two sessions of aromatherapy massage using cammomile and geranium oil (as suggested in an earlier post). The relaxation technique she goes through with me, she suggested to try at any time when I am feeling particularly stressed, and when I wake up in the night.
She starts off by asking you to close your eyes (not if you are driving or in a meeting
), then she asks you to just think about where you are at that moment in time. If you are sitting in a chair, to just think about where you are at that very moment and how the chair (or bed depending on where you are) is supporting you, then she asks you to relax the muscles in your head, then slowly moves down your body, asking you to relax the muscles in your forehead, then eyes, cheeks, dropping your tongue into the bottom of your mouth and relaxing it. Then relax the muscles in your neck and shoulders, arms and hands, back, chest, top of your stomach by your diaphragm, lower part of your stomach, hips, thighs, knees, ankles and feet. Then she asks you to take in a big breath, a little more than normal then exhale through your mouth as fully as you can. Then take a few normal breaths then one more big breath.
The first night I tried it I had the most dreadful night because I was concentrating so hard on it
But I have been trying it for a little while now and it does get easier. With practice you end up falling asleep before you get to your hips. You can talk yourself through it slowly and really try and relax, or quickly, and you can do it in lots of different situations. She said that if you find yourself in a situation where you are at work and stressed, to sit back in your chair and work through this relaxing technique and it will help.
Probably sounds a load of old waffle but it may be worth a try. I think I still have a long way to go to use it to help me to relax when I need to, but I think with practice it will help. Anything is worth a try, and you aren't taking any tablets so it can't do any harm.
I have found turning my alarm clock away from me helps too, because it is one of those electric ones which lights the room up.
A friend of mine who does hypnotherapy said that when you are asleep your mind tries to solve things, but when it comes up against something it can't solve you wake up. I think there is some truth in this because when I was at my worst I had a lot of things going on that I had no control over and couldn't solve, now I have come to terms with this I am definitely sleeping better.
Sleep well