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[bambina]

A friend of mine left cyprus this year, as his wifes cypriot gynacologist <sp> thought it was acceptable to kiss her breasts during an examination and tell her how beautiful they were...

Not a rape, but an abuse of trust... the wife's view of cyprus was shattered and she could no longer stand to live here...

Very sad

[Hazza]

Going back to what GG says about different types of rapes, I'm of the opinion that men who go to these cabaret clubs are also rapists. Most of the girls are forced into the sex industry with threats of violence against either them or their families. Now for somebody to go and pay to have sex with one of these women must surely be raping the women, even if they appear to be willing to the punter?

[unique_earthling]

rape is thought of first then acted upon, most men are obsessed with sex, many have strange proclivities all have been pandered to by the porn industry, so much so that many men feel if they are not getting the full monty of possibilities they are being short changed by their wives and girlfriends, i still believe that the more you dwell on sex and porn, you will end up with an unballanced view of whats healthy and what is not..

[G.Man]

rape is thought of first then acted upon, most men are obsessed with sex, many have strange proclivities all have been pandered to by the porn industry, so much so that many men feel if they are not getting the full monty of possibilities they are being short changed by their wives and girlfriends, i still believe that the more you dwell on sex and porn, you will end up with an unballanced view of whats healthy and what is not..

Utter bilge...

Most men enjoy sex yes, but rape is not about sex it is a crime of violence and control...

I have never failed to stop myself when a girlfriend has said she doesnt want to tonight, and indeed have stopped myself when a girlfriend made me lose interest...

Porn is generally used as a source of eye candy for masturbation to tae the pressure off a long term partner without infidelity, or for single guys who DONT go out and rape women...

A mismatched sex drive is a problem, and one that should be cause to end a relationship unless its not a problem for either party, but generally it is and stems from a lack of communication or someones belief they can change the oher party..

I have seen too many relationships where the wife uses sex as a bargaining tool to get what she wants... Those women are no better than whores in my book, and if they dont enjoy sex with me, then they would be out the door before they finish the bribe!

Nobody above a basic IQ level believes sex is like a porn film, otherwise we would never trust the wives to get a plumber round to fix the sink...

[GG]

theres alot of girls out there who tease for fun ive seen them with my own eyes they think its great to wear hardly anything and have guys drulling over them and as soon as someone aproaches them they claim sexual harrassment
Mostly in Ayia Napa there seems to be a competition by girls who wears the less clothes is the best.
OK im going out for the evening my skirt is so short when i lift my arm you can see my knickers i have no bra on my top is nearly see through .

I am so glad this was said by a female because when ever a man says it women think its en excuse for rape. If a woman knows that dressing and acting a certain way and in certain environments is going to attract the wrong type of people and yet she proceeds to do so then she has knowingly chosen to take that risk. I mean we all know the dangers in life, we should take precautions.

[andri_cy]

ok i agree with everything said about raping that no matter what the circumstances a man has no right to to have sex without concent.but theres alot of girls out there who tease for fun ive seen them with my own eyes they think its great to wear hardly anything and have guys drulling over them and as soon as someone aproaches them they claim sexual harrassment
Mostly in Ayia Napa there seems to be a competition by girls who wears the less clothes is the best.
OK im going out for the evening my skirt is so short when i lift my arm you can see my knickers i have no bra on my top is nearly see through . Now why am i dressing like this do i want attention from the opposite sex obviously the answer is yes but when i get it will i like it or bitch about it you cant expect to go out dressed to kill and be ignored . see my point your dress and behaviour matters to what impresion your giving others and how others will treat you.

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I completely agree.

[unique_earthling]

so are you saying, many men cant control themselves if a woman dresses and acts provocatively?????

[Svetlana]

Unique earthling

You have said:

<Rape is not about sex>

<rape is thought of first then acted upon, most men are obsessed with sex>


So is rape about sex or not?


Lana

[G.Man]

so are you saying, many men cant control themselves if a woman dresses and acts provocatively?????

No, what they are saying is that knowing there are rapists about, girls have a duty to be more responsible about how they dress, and not wander about alone and drunk showing parts of themselves that should be reserved for the bedroom!

[reportfromcyprus]

That's assuming that women know that there's potential danger. What if they're told that it's lala land and they don't have to worry because it's so safe? As GG said, a woman in London would be considered crazy if she went off with some guy she'd met a couple of hours ago.

It's unrealistic for this myth of perfect safety to be continually pushed by the government. It's simply not true!

Hmm, I feel an opinion piece coming on...

Love this forum, it's so thought provoking.