reportfromcyprus wrote:The sexual blueprint you describe, Kikapu, gives men the biological imperative to reproduce and 'spread his seed'.
This implies that the continuation of the human race is the most important aspect of sexual relations, and overrides all other considerations; trust, love and so on.
I always find this argument disingenuous because if it's the most important thing, then why would men use contraception during one night stands or whilst cheating? Something the blueprint left out?
Why do committed relations exist at all, if the male's sexual blueprint is so dominating and so all-powerful?
All good questions. The fact that there are over 6,000,000,000 (six Billion) people in the world, something must be working right. The "male genetic sexual blue print" does not know what happens to the Genes once released. It's main concern is to release them, and that is it's main goal. We humans decide how many children we should and shouldn't have. But in the Animal Kingdom, if food is available, young ones are born all the time. Sexuality is the main purpose, births to young are secondary. Modern man will want sex, but not the children, so he will take measures. But that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about him getting into bed for sex to release his GENES in the first place. His "sexual blue prints" have achieved it's goals by doing this. Where the Genes go, has no reflection on anything else.
Committed relationships do exist for some and not for all. I suppose relationships provides "sure sex" for the male as not to wonder around looking for some. But that won't be enough for some, so they start looking for more. It's also not just sex that they are looking for, they look to reassure themselves that they can find, pursue, persuade, dominate and conquer the female, much like their cousins in the jungle. Yes, man is an "animal". You don't have all these in a "committed relationships" so many wonder off, to have an affair. But lets not forget, that females also enjoy "the chase game" and wants to be pursued, persuaded, dominated and conquered, and end up in another mans bed, despite being in a "committed relationship" that has gone a little stale.
Any given day, men can't help but look at a good looking woman with nice body and sex appeal. Within a few seconds, she will get a complete "cat scan" from top to bottom, and back to top again, with sexual thoughts dominating his mind. This will happen dozens times a day, and it doesn't matter if the wife or the girl friend is with him or not. It only takes few seconds, but he will do it. It is his "male sexual genetic blue print", and there's no escaping it. But man will also have sex on the mind, even if there're no women around to look at. They have their memories, some with the women they are with now, and some with their past experiences. It's a small wonder, how men can get anything done, when preoccupied by his "sexual blue print" that dictates his sexuality.
All this can be one reason why men cheat, or the other reason may well be, it's because they are PIGS. I don't know what words to use for a cheating female. Perhaps some one can give me a clue.
