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[GG]

I for one agree that I dont think I can sleep with someone I dont have feelings for. If I ever wanted to sleep with someone other than my husband that would signal the end of my marriage because it will mean to me that I am in love with someone else.

Thinking about it again, some women who are depressed or lack love will misinterpret a mans advances with feelings and will sleep with a guy like that. Most greeks will have her branded a whore (boutana) but there could be many reasons why she did it. I knew a girl who had a very absuve home life, her parents always shouting at her and she would sleep with guys so that for those few hours she would be with someone who she 'thought' adored her. Obviously the next day when h never calls she feels twice as bad, that then makes her clingy and more eager to do it again with anyone else.

[ManoWAR]

The answer is NO!

[GG]

I think everyone wants to have an exclusive of the person they love.

You are 100% right there but why? Whats the psychology behind that?

Isn't it because of our own insecurity?

The fear that they might like someone else better?

[dms007]

I knew a girl who had a very absuve home life, her parents always shouting at her and she would sleep with guys so that for those few hours she would be with someone who she 'thought' adored her.

thelo to telephono tis.......

[reportfromcyprus]

Sad and quite pathetic that men will take advantage of such a girl. Some poor emotionally disturbed person with no self esteem; the last thing she needs are losers using her for their own self-satisfaction.

Hopefully she'll learn her lesson and tell future predators to eff off instead of exposing herself to them emotionally.

[GG]

Sad and quite pathetic that men will take advantage of such a girl. Some poor emotionally disturbed person with no self esteem; the last thing she needs are losers using her for their own self-satisfaction.

Yeh but don't be so quick to judge, I met her and was 'with' her for a little while and only then did I realise what she was like. At first girls like that seem so great, they seem so eager and willing to show their feelings. Only after they start standing outside your house at night and trying to get out of the car while doing 70mph do you realise that they are disturbed. That doesn't make me a user.

[reportfromcyprus]

My comment was not directed at you. You said "I knew a girl who had a very absuve home life, her parents always shouting at her and she would sleep with guys so that for those few hours she would be with someone who she 'thought' adored her. Obviously the next day when h never calls she feels twice as bad, that then makes her clingy and more eager to do it again with anyone else."

I was talking about the guys who didn't call her - that's using someone.

[dms007]

I was talking about the guys who didn't call her - that's using someone.

when sleep with someone with whom you have no intention of having a relationship, you are using them.
does not matter whether you call the next day or not.

[GG]

when sleep with someone with whom you have no intention of having a relationship, you are using them.
does not matter whether you call the next day or not.

I 100% disagree, surely that depends on so many things, mainly on what the sleepee is led to believe. If I meet a girl in a club and she makes it clear she likes me but then i also make it clear that I do not want any relationships whatsoever and she still carries on then surely she has no right to be a victim if the next day she doen't get a call from me.

(clearly this is on the assumption that neither party is insane)

The complicatiosn begine when the girl thinks that she will manage to change his mind. Thats when the using begins. If a girl maintains self respect she will be fine.

[reportfromcyprus]

What about your self respect GG? You obviously disapprove yourself of the men who slept with this woman you knew and then didn't call her.

Don't you think that having sex with someone ranks as 'having a relationship'?

Or is it less important to you than shaking hands with someone, a sign of respect you'd pay to any acquaintance?