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[Landis]

never strayed in 51 years of marriage or the two years we were together before we married. it is not appropriate behaviour for married men or women. I think too many men cheat to prove their manliness. My generation defined manliness by different standards.

[anastasiaC]

not paranoid - just defending women LOL
you cannot put everyone (men or women) in the same boat - we are individuals and when u marry an individual you love them because of who they are...

not all women let themselves go - most try to keep up without looking like lamb mutton (ie middle aged in heavy makeup and minis trying to look young?? blah!! tacky!!)
i think older woman can look stunning and beautiful as they age gracefully and many men find that sexy!

dont forget most women bear the brunt of marriage - child raising, some work outside of the home, most do the majority of housework
they say marriage is better for men than women and I totaly agree - a man will help but its usually the woman who sacrifices much more in marriage

what is wrong with women in sweat pants - I personally never wear them as I do feel slobby in them but if its what makes the woman feel comfortable then why not?? you dont want your wife to be comfortable?

a marriage is hard work - it needs upkeep and taking time out for special moments be it unexecpted sex or dates with your partner or cooking his/her favoruite meal, sharing a joke, flirting - little things that make each other feel wanted and loved and part of something good
and sometimes you need to put your partner first before the kids - this is one mistake most women make but its also the mother lion instinct to look after her cub.......

Flirting with people outside of marriage ( if innocnet) or checking someone out is not a bad thing - we are human after all
but to feel desire and then to act on that desire is wrong!
there is much more at stake and usually for someone to do that then there are obviously other issues here....

I also think its wrong that Cypriots marry so young - whats the rush? I dont get it?

[Landis]

I married young but everyone did in the 1950s. It is not the same today and I have been away from Cyprus so long I was not aware people still married so young. The family and societal pressure must still be great. I was raised to believe that I would not be a man until I married and had children.

[anastasiaC]

I married young but everyone did in the 1950s. It is not the same today and I have been away from Cyprus so long I was not aware people still married so young. The family and societal pressure must still be great. I was raised to believe that I would not be a man until I married and had children.

yes everyone did back then - my parents were youngsters too when they married in 1969....life was different, people were different
but now i dont think there is a need to rush
i really think that is a problem over there as people realise a little too late they never lived their life/dreams/ambitions before settling down....and then itch to 'live' and not have the responsibilities married life brings.

most of my boy cousins finish the army and whoop they are engaged and within a year or two fathers as well!!
the girls are pressured to meet someone and marry and have a family....
I dont agree with this - hopefully it will change eventually.......

[G.Man]

not paranoid - just defending women LOL
you cannot put everyone (men or women) in the same boat - we are individuals and when u marry an individual you love them because of who they are...

not all women let themselves go - most try to keep up without looking like lamb mutton (ie middle aged in heavy makeup and minis trying to look young?? blah!! tacky!!)
i think older woman can look stunning and beautiful as they age gracefully and many men find that sexy!

dont forget most women bear the brunt of marriage - child raising, some work outside of the home, most do the majority of housework
they say marriage is better for men than women and I totaly agree - a man will help but its usually the woman who sacrifices much more in marriage

what is wrong with women in sweat pants - I personally never wear them as I do feel slobby in them but if its what makes the woman feel comfortable then why not?? you dont want your wife to be comfortable?

a marriage is hard work - it needs upkeep and taking time out for special moments be it unexecpted sex or dates with your partner or cooking his/her favoruite meal, sharing a joke, flirting - little things that make each other feel wanted and loved and part of something good
and sometimes you need to put your partner first before the kids - this is one mistake most women make but its also the mother lion instinct to look after her cub.......

Flirting with people outside of marriage ( if innocnet) or checking someone out is not a bad thing - we are human after all
but to feel desire and then to act on that desire is wrong!
there is much more at stake and usually for someone to do that then there are obviously other issues here....

I also think its wrong that Cypriots marry so young - whats the rush? I dont get it?

AnastasiaC

I agree with everything you wrote... I wish all women took the same approach...

I prefer a woman to grow old gracefully.. i do chuckle at the 50 yr old paris hiltons in nicosia... lol

[reportfromcyprus]

I don't find plastic surgery attractive in any way and it's so damaging to the skin. Re. the 50-year-old Paris Hiltons, I find there's a quality in their smile that is almost robotic, as if it only happens when there's a camera around.

I'd hope that women could find contentment in inner beauty, where it counts. Somehow I don't think those kinds of women need to seek approval through plastic surgery or social status.

Also, Landis, Miltiades, I like your principled approach. It sounds like you have developed them through real life, and not learned them by rote. It's easy to claim principles when you never exercised them or are a hypocrite. It's much harder when you face real life situations and still stick to them, even if you make mistakes.