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[reportfromcyprus]

You forgot to add "humourous" to your undoubted list of talents, Miltiades

[sal]

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Ok, I will never understand women but based on this evidence I understand why women don't undertand men!
Very stange that Sal. How old is this guy? Sounds very imature to me, but i may be wrong.[/quote]

He's 29. Or so he says. Don't know what to believe now. Yes, it is confusing and I don't understand this 'game' that I feel I've become (who/what's the prize? haha) or see it's point. If I have just been played then what a waste of mine and his time and expense of time and money. Just seems pointless.

I agree that these player traits can be found in any race although I do think this is an extreme form of play I've been subjected to that's totally true but I did find most of the men I encountered in Cyprus to be boastful, egotistical and very materialistic talking about their cars, how they'd been out with a model (yawn and bothered?) and they were quite vain too. But I loved their confidence, to a degree I also liked their arrogance, I liked the fact that they made interesting conversation (when not boasting about their possessions) and were interested in you (or were good at faking it) and although some were quite serious and cut morose figures at times they were also able to have a good laugh (although not at themselves). Just generalisations but this was my experience.

I love Cyprus and will go back soon but this time I'll be keeping away from the locals!

[GG]

My fear of commitment, wel I am also guily of being offspring of a modern society. That means that up to the date of meeting my current girlfriend I was always 'seeing' several different women. We would use eachother for sex or company and general convenience, sometimes several women simultaneous, I dont mean orgies I mean generally lots of women. I became used to that style of life, never being answerable to anyone, never having a deadline of coming home at certain times, never having to be sensitive to others feelings, never having to put myself second and generally never having to 'compromise'.

Well now I have to do all those things and it scares me that once I get married it will never be reversed. Its a decision thats final, I know divorce exists but for me I do not want to have that as an option. Marriage is forever.

[GG]

Unique Earthling.

I agree with you very very much. People think I am making excuses when I say that men are not designed to have one partner. I have always found it very very difficult to have one sexual partner, the desire for more women is always there, it can't be ignored, it's natural. I realise society encourages men to inhibit those feelings and naturally I will do so just not to upset a 'wife' but that doesnt make the desire disappear.

[reportfromcyprus]

Well, I admire your honesty, especially in admitting that you get confused, GG. We all get scared, and I really believe that courage is a matter of defeating fear by doing the thing you're afraid of doing.

The uncommitted lifestyle is a good way to get experience but not a good way to get into any depth with a woman. If you're worried you'll get bored with just one woman in your heart, think about this; each day is completely different from the day before in hundreds of tiny ways.

Sometimes it's ones approach to life that needs refreshing, not the number or type of people in it.

good luck to you GG

[sal]

Unique Earthling.

I agree with you very very much. People think I am making excuses when I say that men are not designed to have one partner. I have always found it very very difficult to have one sexual partner, the desire for more women is always there, it can't be ignored, it's natural. I realise society encourages men to inhibit those feelings and naturally I will do so just not to upset a 'wife' but that doesnt make the desire disappear.

And I too thank you for your honesty! It's true of both sexes to some degree that there are people for whom one partner at a time will never suffice but I think the reasons behind this are different for each person. It can stem from feelings of insecurity, to make people jealous, to feel desirable, from being frightened of missing out if something 'better' comes along, feeling trapped, escapism...

[GG]

The arabs have it right, several wives, all treated well and respected.

I work with many arabs and I have discussed the issue with their wives, none of them are jealous in fact they are grateful that their husband is shared because it gives them valuable time apart. They all agree that they would go crazy if they were the only wife.

At the end of the day, I dont want to abuse a woman or show her disrespect, its just nice to have several.

[reportfromcyprus]

The arab system is different; each woman and their children are taken care of financially and since it's a cultural norm, and they accept it as part of their daily life. The man in an arab society who is polygamous is expected to have enough resources to give his wives what they need financially, emotionally and sexually.

It's a distinct way of life that has nothing to do with having several women around for convenience or sex or company.

[miltiades]

GG Wrote :
""The arabs have it right, several wives, all treated well and respected. ""

Well well , treated well and respected too ! Shame they have to walk ten steps behind their husband .

[GG]

GG Wrote :
""The arabs have it right, several wives, all treated well and respected. ""

Well well , treated well and respected too ! Shame they have to walk ten steps behind their husband .

Well yes but its the norm for them and accepted. People have this image in their head they they'd like to run away and escape their husband. They know their fate from a young age, they expect it, there is no shock. Its not the same as asking a Greek woman or Spanish woman to walk 10 steps behind her man.