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[avyixy]

unique-earthling, please can you help me out here!

I have two daughters, aged 12 and 14. Now it's the summer holidays they are at home all day and I am at work. All I ask of them is to keep the house tidy while I am away, but most of the time I go home to find it a mess.

When I was young my mum was working from home so I felt sorry for her and helped her with all the housework and ironing and then did my homework. So, when I had my children I thought I would not make them do anything until they were old enough to understand that as a working mum, I needed their help. Now that they have reached that age, they are lazy and in order for them to do anything, first of all they moan quite alot and then end up doing it but doing it badly.

My husband says it is my fault because I did everything for them when they were younger. However I believe that this has nothing to do with it. It all comes down to personality and cleanliness. Nobody taught me to be houseproud and want everything in the right place! It came naturally to me. If I see something on the floor then I automatically bend down, pick it up and put it in it's place. However my husband and two daughters will just walk past and leave it there.

Is it my fault that the girls are like that?

I also have a two year old son, and I am teaching him from this age that he must do things for himself. When he wants water he takes his cup and fills it himself. Hopefully he will not be like all the other cypriot men (including his dad) who depend on their wives for everything.

[miltiades]

Unique_earthing wrote on the Cypriots :
"attractive race when young "

I hereby withdraw my offer to take you for a ride on my motor bike , being 60 and not young and attractive any more !!!
Only joking !

[Svetlana]

QUESTION: What do you call a handsome, intelligent, wealthy, caring and faithful man?









ANSWER: A 'Rumour'

[anastasiaC]

QUESTION: What do you call a handsome, intelligent, wealthy, caring and faithful man?


ANSWER: A 'Rumour'

Hilarious!!! but totaly true
everyone - male or female - is an individual so we need to treat them like that.......

[unique_earthling]

(QUESTION: What do you call a handsome, intelligent, wealthy, caring and faithful man?)
a rumour.

haha, surely they are not such a rare breed, and Miltiades, MOTORBIKE??? you little easy rider you. Actually used to own bikes too when in my 20's i had a triumph bonneville 750, the jubilee model with twin disk brakes, it was a metal flake blue with full fairing, with a compression kick back that made my shins look like a war zone. So bring it on Miltiades, mind you you take your life in your hands here on a motorbike.

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[GG]

Is it fairy tale like GG? Because if it is why is it that i know i am that person and i know many women that are like that, so you tell me why its so hard for you to believe a man can be like that too????

I understand what you are saying but to be that person when single and to be that person when coupled are two very different things. Many people change drastically the moment there is a commitment, I for one am happy to admit that commitment makes me nervous. I am currently very close to setting an engagement date and it's probabaly the scariest decision I have ever made. The fairy tale part is compatibility, no 2 people are that compatible, the main recipe for succes in a relationship is compromise!!! But the modern age and way of life teaches us very little about compromise, in every other area of life we can have what we want and when we want it. This makes us generally incompatible people and is why the average marriage rate is getting lower every year.

[reportfromcyprus]

What is it that scares you about commitment, GG?

[reportfromcyprus]

A note on the motorbike thing - a 23-year-old died this morning in a bike accident, police are looking for info if anyone saw the accident on Fr. Roosevelt in Limassol.

23-years-old, what a waste.

[miltiades]

""QUESTION: What do you call a handsome, intelligent, wealthy, caring and faithful man? ""

Svetlana you should know the answer of course is ...Miltiades "

[unique_earthling]

yes i see what you mean GG, so what is it that scares you? whats the worst that can happen? you get married, it works or it doesnt but its not the end of the world, i feel that perhaps man isnt really made for monogamy, after all we are animals albeit sophisticated ones, and the instinct in animals is the survival of the species, so men feel the need to sow their seed as much as possible. And women need to build the best nest for their offspring, and make sure the security their man provides isnt threatened. I think your right the fairy tale is 'the live happily ever after' and that marriage is important, but is it? I am not so sure it is, the only way to survive. I really dont think its in mans nature to stay faithful, especially if a man is very appealing to women, i read the gossip collumns in the mags and how many stars stay faithful to one person all their lives because their options are greater. Many women stay in a marriage because of financial stability, many because they feel safer and yes i know many do because they really love their husband. I wonder how many would be honest enough to admit they are or have not always been faithful, how many men do you know that have never been unfaithful in their married lives? Here now in Cyprus its not uncommon to be unfaithful, a mistress seems the norm if you have money and divorce was unheard of 10 years ago now its commonplace, women now work and earn their own money so dont have to put up with their husbands infidelity some dont care so long as the money is coming in, many are also having affairs. Its a throw away society, most are selfish and unable to compromise... I am not sure the stress is worth it unless your one of the lucky ones who have found happiness with a partner.