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[reportfromcyprus]

Remind me not to ask for your assistance when looking for a long-lost love, you unromantic scoffers!

Good luck, Debbie, if he's meant to be found, he will be. Meantime, doesn't one of our lovely and helpful, chivalrous forum posters appeal to you instead?

[complexity]

someone started a topic about fidelity.....and most of the time the women blamed the men..
the reason why there are many extra martial relationships is because of women like debbie, who dont even think twice when it comes to ruining another woman's life.

Im with dms007.

[complexity]

Remind me not to ask for your assistance when looking for a long-lost love, you unromantic scoffers!

Good luck, Debbie, if he's meant to be found, he will be. Meantime, doesn't one of our lovely and helpful, chivalrous forum posters appeal to you instead?

As far as the occasional "love can feed the world" person as above I would like to state the following.

Love won't put food on the table , love will definately not pull a truck with its teeth and neither will it do any good if love is in 3 directions and not 2 as originally intended by whatever power created life as we know it.

I would like debbie to have a bite of reality though which does put food on a table and can pull trucks with teeth and create wars and peace for that matter.

Debbie if you are about to do what I would consider foolish in every way and selfish indeed I would like for you to consider the consequences in another role , not yours. If you were married to a guy...do you think it would be apropriate for an old passion/love/girlfriend/companion to walk right back in your husband's life? I am definately sure you wouldnt accept it. And personally if I were the guy in this mess , being married with kids Id tell you to literally "take a walk" even if I didnt love my wife and loved you to bits.

I gave you a tip on social engineering. If you do go my method youll probably find him within the hour. But please do consider that if he is married and has a child or children , you might be a threat to bringing down a home for children , and because this has happened to me as a child (the threat not the real thing) I would slap you right accross the face flying into the middle of next week IF I WAS NOT A DIPLOMATIC PERSON.

Love is all very nice , but you go for it when the time comes , or you leave it and move on.


Im truly sorry to be sour in some points above but you do not have the right to play God. Please take into consideration that I did mention a tip on how to get to him if you do decide to go for it. Therefore take my posts as a very "U.N" policy post. I am neutral in every way.


If you do not care though you might be breaking up a marriage , take into consideration that there might be children in the middle.


Thanks for listening deb,
mario

[Debbie]

In answer to all -- If I find him and
(a) he is married with children --- he should stay that way --- my ultimate hope is to find him well and happy
(b) he is single with no ties -- we rekindle a friendship

For the record -- I am not using private detectives or other "in-your-face" methods of attempting to locate him -- the very last thing I want to have happen is to cause unhappiness in anyone's home --- so I will not and I repeat not be making any crazy lady telephone calls to every Christou in the telephone book or sending letters to each address.

I am just hoping to find out that life has been kind and rewarding for him.

So in response to -----"Meantime, doesn't one of our lovely and helpful, chivalrous forum posters appeal to you instead" --- the answer is I am not looking for love --- I am looking for an old love --- I lost a friend through my own foolishness.....

[reportfromcyprus]

Actually, complexity, it is love that feeds the world.

If mother's didn't love their children, how could they fend for themselves?

If your parents are old and cannot take care of themselves, if you don't love and take care of them, how will they live?

If there's a question: what's more important, love or money? You ask the child with no money which is more important.

Love is central to all human relations - it's been proven that if someone does not receive love when they are a child, it affects their ability to socialise and relate to others.

Being romantic is quite practical sometimes

[Carmen]

Totally agree with you reportfromsyprus, it is really central

[reportfromcyprus]

Re: the other part of the discussion - ie. is it ethical to want to re-establish relations with an old flame?

It all comes down to the couple's conduct when and if they meet. Ethics and morals mean nothing if they are not applicable in real life. Who knows what the situation would be like? If they met up and talked, maybe that's all they'd want to do.

You only really regret the things you didn't do, and surely mature adults could be trusted to meet and talk, even if it's only about memories.

[Debbie]

If a relationship is truly strong and has been built around trust, respect and love, there should be little cause for concern if one of the partners meets with an "old flame".

Remember they are an "old flame" or an "ex-partner" for a reason --- and in all likelihood that reason would still exist.

I do not see how wanting to see that someone you were once very close to is doing well can be considered unethical.

There are many and varied reasons people lose touch -- for me personally, it was the fear of having to tell a very family driven man I was not able to bear the children he yearned for -- so at the young age of 19 I took the coward's way out and simply left. I was so afraid that if I married him and later told him I could not have children he would resent me --- not that he doesn't resent me now. Stupid and young -- what else can I say.

I strongly suspect he has returned to his family home in Cyprus and that the closest we may come together again is through e-mail --- much time has passed and lives have been built.

[NeverSayGoodbye]

Do you know which town he comes from at least?

[mad-dog]

get over him he.s prob been shagging everything in sight and totaly forgoten you so try doing the same

if you need any help please ask me

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