I agree, the bickering over EOKA/EOKA B/TMT and the like is counter-productive,but I will try and give you my take on your questions:
was the second target of eoka - that is :enosis, viewed from today, wrong?
how do you view akels stance? should it participate as well (despite that grivas didnt want them)? should it have created another anti-colonilialist organisation?
With hindsight I believe Enosis was wrong. It would not have been the right thing for Cyprus at the time. It took a few years for many GCs to realise this. AKEL provided, through the trade unions, some links with the TC community. It might have created an anti-colonial organisation but what good would that do. Brtitain was not about to give Cyprus independence any time soon. With hindsight, perhaps if AKEL had developed into an peaceful anti-colonialist organisation that included the TC community things would have been different. But let's be realistic, Enosis and Taksim went back further than the 50s.
do you think the idea of excluding akel and the tc was a wise one?
do you think grivas choise as a leader (considering his past - keeling communist greeks) was a right choise?
You ask these questions as if these issues were decided unanimously within the GC community. Grivas had experience in this sort of thing, in terms of orchestrating a guerilla war, he was probably the best man for the job, but it wasn't as if the GC 'leaders' gave him an interview and said, right, you're the man for a job. I don't think he was the right choice with regards independence simply because the British were very stubborn, they were not going to let go of Cyprus as easily as all that. He was certainly not the right choice because his aim of Enosis alienated the TC community and Britain's subsequent policies helped incite hatred between the two communities. But I have already said that it is we hindsight that we can appreciate all of this.
do you think that eoka (deliberately or not ) harmed the bicommunal relationships?
what do you think would have happened if eoka didnt exist at all?
would you say we owe an apology to the tc communite for some actions of eoka?
what could have been done better in eoka?
EOKA did harm bicommunal relations, no doubt about it.
If EOKA did not exist, something else would have happened instead.
Again, with hindsight, it is reasonable to suppose that Cyprus would have got its independence at some point. The question is when? I believe this would have happened at the earliest in the 1970s when Britain joined Europe, it certainly could not have been foreseen.
Loads of things could have been done better by EOKA, but that's with the benefit of hindsight. With hindsight both communities would have acted differently.
Both communities owe apologies to each other for the inter-communal conflict. If anything EOKA owes it's biggest apology to it's own community. If there is anything that makes EOKA a terrorist group it is it's killing of GC civilians. With some notable exceptions (such as the killing of a British Officer's wife), EOKA's targets were all 'combatants', either British military or security forces. There is no doubt that some members of EOKA then went on to commit attrocities against the TC community. However, imo the majority of the GC community which suported EOKA at this time did so because they had had enough of the British and wanted some form of self-determination, in this case Enosis.
Enosis and Taksim by themselves were simply calls for self-determination. The problem was that in Cyprus at that time they were politically the worst case scenarios for the 'other' community. An independent Cyprus did not work because the people on either side did not want it to work. I believe both governments and the people are much more mature now than they were in the 1950s. I believe a unified Cyprus could work.