I am sympatheric to Piratis's views above,but human rights and true democracy will not come if trust is not established.It might take a couple of generations to do it (30 years),but the sooner we start the better.
Birkibrisli, why you didn't need 30 years? I can understand what you mean, but I am afraid that most people use this lack of trust as an excuse and it is not the real reason.
If what you want is unity then trust is easy to gain. We are all humans, not monsters. But if your aim is partition then you will never show any trust simply because such thing would not serve your aim.