babyystar wrote:Thank you for all of your answers, it makes me happy to see so many people wanting to help and support me to find him!
And trust me, i have been thinking for all my life that hi may not want to see me or something like that but if i found him and he told me that hi didn't want to se me, them it's okay. Then i can move on and stop thinking "what if"?"...
And to all of you saying that he haven't tried to find me, how do you know?
Baby, some of my good friends here on the CF think I'm being a little hard on you, but I have a good reasons to do so, because this is what you wrote in your initial post.
He knows about me but he lost contact with my mother when i was only 1year old and last think she heard was that he was getting married.
So he knows you exist, and he knows who your mother is, her name, places she worked, lived, her family background and so on, so it will take very little effort to find you through your mother if he really wanted. He hasn't bothered, regardless whether or not he has wept at times thinking about his long lost daughter just so to clear his own conscious, assuming he has one. If you ask me, he took off because you were not a planned child. You were a lovechild. You were a product of him sewing his oats all over the place. Don't be surprise if there are few more of his "lovechild" around, your blood related siblings. If he wanted you in his life, he could have had it, even if he now has another family. He could have kept you separate from the rest of his family, or include you in his family. You are the innocent victim here and he shouldn't be ashamed to have you in his life, but he hasn't bothered. There's really not a lot of nice things one can say about this person. He is a coward above everything else.
Have you had another man to raise you as his daughter? If so, he is your real father and not the sperm donor. How do you think he feels about you searching for the ghost you call "father"? Listen, there are many people who are blood related and they hate each other, or even kill each other. Being blood related to someone does not automatically make you a family member. It needs to be nurtured, just like what a flower needs to blossom into something beautiful. Look, I wish you the best in finding him, if no other reasons than to satisfy your own questions. He had the chance for the last 21 years to come and find you and you may spend just as much time in trying to find him. If you ask me, it's a lot of wasted good years. I wish you will come back and let us know the outcome one way or the other.
WTF? 
