tsukoui wrote:In all my posts about "race" this has been one of the issues I've found most difficult to negotiate.
How do you fight bias in sexualisation. Do you compete? Do you educate? What?
Now I finally have a girlfriend for the first time, I don't feel any need to compete. But still I worry.
OK, so you got a girlfriend, good, but she needs attention and 101 oher things to continue to stick around with you.
This is not the right attitude, your girlfriend is looking for the alpha male in you. Alpha males do not get worried but if you slide, your sexual competition will make up the ground.
If you have a hot girlfriend, other guys will want her too. thats normal. would you prefer a women that noone else wants?