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[Cap]

lol

[ZoC]

i asked my neighbour about this. she said... "you mean i've got to turn my house into fort knox - put barbed wire and mines around my back door - because of vile men? (most burglars are men after all). i'm the victim here, and i'm the one who has to change? i got a better idea, chop all men's hands off!"

I would suggest chopping something else off of those vile men , but you see, the men who make and enforce our laws have considered that to be "cruel and unusual," unlike what they consider rape to be. After all, it is the nature of man, vile or otherwise, to take what he desires, so we shall hold the victim accountable instead. Stone the whore! You must agree then that Cyprus was a whore. I'm only "follow[ing] where reason leads."

not sure wot ur on about but u've got me all wrong, fili. i'd be happy for u and all womanhood (and billc too), to wonder around completely naked, if u wanted. i promise to control my animal urges and (just to be on the safe side) i'd chop off every other man's willy; because, let's face it, none of them can be trusted.

[antifon]

lol

[yialousa1971]

I think the OP should realise that every nation has its own 'culture' and how things happen. She should not assume that all the 'honkers' are Cypriot; there are many foreigner workers here (young guys) and equally it could be them. I know it is not very pleasant and you should be able to walk around without this but at least the rate of sexual crime here is much lower than most countries. To suggest you were dressed like a slut is not acceptable and I trust we will have no more similar vremarks.

[supporttheunderdog]

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I think the OP should realise that every nation has its own 'culture' and how things happen.

But does that make it right, wherever it happens or whoever is doing it?

Leaving aside the Hypotheticals would any man be happy if his wife or daughter were subject to such behaviours?

[Sotos]

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I think the OP should realise that every nation has its own 'culture' and how things happen.

But does that make it right, wherever it happens or whoever is doing it?

Leaving aside the Hypotheticals would any man be happy if his wife or daughter were subject to such behaviours?

No. But honking etc is not a crime and I've seen many women who are definitely asking for this kind of attention (e.g wearing skimpy clothes in the streets even when it is quite cold).

[smultring]

I am sorry if I offended anyone who is not like the men I described.
I do not think "all" Cypriot men are like that, but it feels like it is almost "all" men when I am walking to work.
My boyfriend is Cypriot, and he is the most fantastic man in the universe.

I moved here very open minded. I had been to Cyprus many times to spend time with my boyfriend and his family, and I really love this country. It is beautiful and I loved the people as well. I felt lucky and excited when I finally moved here.
I think the problem was that I never knew things were like this, because I had always been walking with him, and no one were honking or making animal sounds then.

I do not dress like a "slut", I am a business woman and I dress accordingly. Even if I did dress like a "slut" do you think it is appropriate for people to harrass others on the street? I think that is the same mentality that makes terrible things like rape look innocent, a kind of "she dressed that way, so of course she wanted it."

I am not British either, since someone stated that earlier. I do not feel superior to anyone, I am just tired of walking to work.
It is a problem for me, as I don't even want to walk out of the house alone unless I really have to. One night when I was walking home some men were following me, and it made me really scared. Even if they were just having fun I think it is rude and ignorant of them to do so.

Anyone else had the same experience? I would like to know how others deal with this problem.

[Sotos]

I am sorry if I offended anyone who is not like the men I described.
I do not think "all" Cypriot men are like that, but it feels like it is almost "all" men when I am walking to work.
My boyfriend is Cypriot, and he is the most fantastic man in the universe.

I moved here very open minded. I had been to Cyprus many times to spend time with my boyfriend and his family, and I really love this country. It is beautiful and I loved the people as well. I felt lucky and excited when I finally moved here.
I think the problem was that I never knew things were like this, because I had always been walking with him, and no one were honking or making animal sounds then.

I do not dress like a "slut", I am a business woman and I dress accordingly. Even if I did dress like a "slut" do you think it is appropriate for people to harrass others on the street? I think that is the same mentality that makes terrible things like rape look innocent, a kind of "she dressed that way, so of course she wanted it."

I am not British either, since someone stated that earlier. I do not feel superior to anyone, I am just tired of walking to work.
It is a problem for me, as I don't even want to walk out of the house alone unless I really have to. One night when I was walking home some men were following me, and it made me really scared. Even if they were just having fun I think it is rude and ignorant of them to do so.

Anyone else had the same experience? I would like to know how others deal with this problem.

Sorry if I said anything offensive to you. My problem with your initial post was the "all" generalization. Very few men are doing such things and they are usually concentrated on certain streets at certain times... About dealing with the problem ... Have you showed to them any kind of attention even if that was swearing at them or asking them to stop? Best thing is to totally ignore them...don't even turn to look at them. if you can not avoid those streets then at least walk on the right side of the road so cars that will be on your side will move on the opposite direction. Also make sure that your clothing is indeed not more reveling than the average for that time and place. These tips will help to minimize the problem. If you want to totally avoid them then you will have to get uglier and dress in a way that is not sexy or attractive at all, or get a car.

[kurupetos]

I am sorry if I offended anyone who is not like the men I described.
I do not think "all" Cypriot men are like that, but it feels like it is almost "all" men when I am walking to work.
My boyfriend is Cypriot, and he is the most fantastic man in the universe.

I moved here very open minded. I had been to Cyprus many times to spend time with my boyfriend and his family, and I really love this country. It is beautiful and I loved the people as well. I felt lucky and excited when I finally moved here.
I think the problem was that I never knew things were like this, because I had always been walking with him, and no one were honking or making animal sounds then.

I do not dress like a "slut", I am a business woman and I dress accordingly. Even if I did dress like a "slut" do you think it is appropriate for people to harrass others on the street? I think that is the same mentality that makes terrible things like rape look innocent, a kind of "she dressed that way, so of course she wanted it."

I am not British either, since someone stated that earlier. I do not feel superior to anyone, I am just tired of walking to work.
It is a problem for me, as I don't even want to walk out of the house alone unless I really have to. One night when I was walking home some men were following me, and it made me really scared. Even if they were just having fun I think it is rude and ignorant of them to do so.

Anyone else had the same experience? I would like to know how others deal with this problem.

Probably they think you're an E. European prostitute. Not all E. European women living in Cyprus are prostitutes of course, but a lot of them are.
It's a stereotype equivalent to what you described above for Cy. men. Bare in mind I don't agree with stereotypes.

[smultring]

I do not look at these men when I hear that they are trying to get attention. I do my best to just ignore it, but it doesn't seem to help alot. I actually wear more clothes than most people here, and have gotten comments like "How do you survive in this heath?"

I am also not E. European. I am Scandinavian. I suppose you don't have many Scandinavian prostitutes?
I feel sorry for E. European girls. Even if they are prostitutes or not, they still deserve to be respected.