erolz3 wrote:Sotos wrote:Fair enough. But it seems you expect us to change while I didn't see any change from you. Every time you tell us the same things. If you can not change then why should you expect that we will? I suggest the next time you come here to be changed yourself. otherwise don't bother
It is not really a case of I expect you to change without me changing. THe hope is more that we can have the 'space' were that is possible and whilst over the first year or so of participation in a place like this I did actualy change my perspectives on some things, having learnt some things and accepted them , past that point there is no further progress for me or others seemingly. The 'space' gets closed down.
Just take for example this simple issue , of is any and every document produced in the TRNC automatically legaly invalid internationaly simply because the TRNC is unrecognised. We could , togeather, potential make real progress on our combined understanding of the truth about this. However in reality we never do, because if I suggest it might be true, the automatic assumption by even the sincere, is that I am somehow trying to gain an 'advantage' for my side regadless of the actual truth. This leads to responses that seek to 'destroy' what I suggest might be the case, not motivated by a desire to know the truth by by a desire to counter what I say. Then there are also those that do not want to know the truth regardless because it might be true and they would rather people beleived an untruth that benefited 'thier side' than discover that it does not in this case.
So what starts as a simple 'inquiry' gets immediate met with 'so what about if documents etc, it doesnt matter because you stole from us, your are thieves, you are this that and the other', which lead to responses of 'we didnt , we aren't , you did to and so and so on' and the potnetial that was there for us to all togeather actual find a truth and increase our combined understanding is lost in all this.
And I do not say I am not equally a party to this 'process', I just say I have recognised that this is what happens. I have tried in the past to 'break through' and occsionaly (like now) make another attempt, but overall beyond a certain point they all such attempts have failed. This may be because it simply is not possible on fora like this, or I do not have the skill to break through, or that I am to 'brainwashed' to be able to break through. Any are possible reasons why, but hwatever the reasons its almost always a failure and after 8 years of such failures you get tired, need a rest, before thinking lets have another try at basdhin my head on a brick wall.
I believe personal relations are better, but then again those are also limited to persons we like.
Forums are just food for thought. And some funny "kavga" And perhaps understanding the other side for those who never had a chance.
However I do believe forums DO produce change. Probably not as much as one might wish, but they DO produce.
However wasting too much time on forums may get everyone tired, nervous, incoherent, hostile etc etc. And there comes a time a person has nothing more to say...
I see it coming to me... again.