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[Christie]

They say that if a man and a woman are friends they are either former lovers or future lovers

[Svetlana]

On this basis, if I have a Lover/Partner/Spouse and want to start a new friendship with a member of the opposite sex, I must wish to be unfaithful?

Does this mean lots of people her have have only one friend LOL???

My life must be much too simple

Lana

[Christie]

Of course not Svetlana, it was just a joke I have good friends among men and don't belong to either category

[JustAnAmerican]

I think a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex is very possible.

Unusual, but possible.

I am one of those guys that were able to have “friend-only” girl friends throughout high school and college.
I have a Pilot’s license, was an avid skydiver and have been in the US Marine Corps, I have always enjoyed the company of women more than opposed to a bunch of guys. Too much testosterone and bull-crap.

Most of the girls I dated believed I had deeper intimate relationships with other girls than I actually had.

Why did the relationships not go any further? - I was scared. If I am enjoying a discussion with a female concerning music, the best beaches, Larnaka, or Protaras, Why would I want to screw it up by saying, “ Hey, you want to go to my place?” Is the chance of intimacy worth it.

We are here on earth for really short time period. We could be gone tomorrow. Why make someone feel uncomfortable?

I see a lot of the motivation to meet people and cultivate new friends being born out of an inherent need. The need to have sex, the need to talk about work, the need to talk about a hobby and so on.

One person can completely meet another person’s entire needs physically, spiritually and emotionally. Their presence together calms one another; they actually feel refreshed and alive after spending a few minutes with each other.

Cheating and being unfaithful is unfortunate when their partner is meeting one person’s emotional needs and they are a helluva support system. But their physical needs (their intimacy desires) are left out to dry. The person that is hurting is cultivating other relationships for physical purposes, when actually if they had a healthy, intimate life at home they would have been just fine.
What is even worse is when the guy’s sexual intimacy concerns are being met at home and yet he is trying to find a more “intellectual” girl to share a relationship. No lie, I have a friend write now, married for 8 years. His wife will do anything at anytime for him. Yet he spends time at work and coaching football than at home taking care of his wife.

Don’t get me wrong, even if the guy flew home and ripped off some clothes, sex does not immediately begin. For this woman (and others), sex began many hours before, when she knew he cared, he listened, the bills were paid, and there were groceries in the fridge. After all of that then she would ask, “Hey is the front door locked? Now off with the clothes.”

You could be the kind of person that has your entire needs and desires met by one person or you may need several people.



If you are the kind that needs several, than I wish you the best of luck in the pursuit, I believe it is possible to just have a non-sexual friend.

[Svetlana]

Hi American

Your 'ripping her clothes off'' comment reminds me of a cartoon:
a girl is sitting looking very bored, in a bar, a guy sits next to her:

She says:'Do you want to go to your place?',

He says; "yes, of course!',

She replies: "Well, don't let me keep you!"
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BTW are you going to write about yourself if the 'Introducing ourselves' section

Lana

[dms007]

i think justanamerican is gay.

[Fred@Codies]

Do I think a man can be friends with females and vice versa?

Indeedy they can, I have female friends who I get on with very well but dont find them sexually attractive as such, I dont have that kind of spark with them,

They are like sisters, but the differance is, is that if the chance arose it would be fine!!!!!

[city]

Do I think a man can be friends with females and vice versa?

Indeedy they can, I have female friends who I get on with very well but dont find them sexually attractive as such, I dont have that kind of spark with them,

exactly, thats it.

They are like sisters, but the differance is, is that if the chance arose it would be fine!!!!!

Don't you think that would destroy the friendship you have?

[JustAnAmerican]

i think justanamerican is gay.

hahaha Nope! Never been there! There is just something about it. I just can not play for the same team.

[Fred@Codies]

If you both realise what has happened, act like an adult about it and dont get all funny, then no I dont think that would ruin it your friendship at all.
Might even make it stronger in some cases!