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[SKI-preo]

I can't make a decision.

I've just been offered a huge opportunity in the form of a new job with a massive pay increase.I have already accepted the job but 3 days later I still cannot tell my old boss.

My old boss also gave me pretty big raise last month but nowhere near the amount I would be getting in my new job because I discovered a niche where only I and 4 other people in Sydney know how to do what I do-but I do it with so few resources. What is even more overwhelming is doing what I do as a recently diagnosed dyslexia sufferer.

I do not know what to do! Today I told my old boss I need a few of days off to take a holiday. How do I tell my old boss it is time for me to move on?

[joanna]

NOOOOOOO, ok i am going to tell you my story and then you decide.

About 18 months ago i was like you attached to my boss, it was all very family like and, i loved my boss. But then as you say, you discovered you have a niche, mine is my extreemly English accent even though my Greek is as good, and companies like that. Anyway i was offered a great position in one of the biggest shipping companies, big pay increase not to mention all the percs you can imagine. like you i couldnt bare to tell my boss as i knew it would hurt him, but i realised my career wasnt moving by staying with him, so i told him. He persuaded me to stay, promised to match the salary and i declined the new job offer. A week later my old boss SACKED me, saying that he was so hurt that i wanted to leave him in the first palce that he couldnt get over it. In the end i lost both jobs for absolutely no reason at all other than wanting to further my carrer and knowledge and letting my heart rule my decisions rather than my brain. I have since re-applied on numerous occasions to what would have been the new job, but needless to say they will not accept me. This is kind of silly, ok i had my reasons for turning them down and tried to do it in the best way possible, so surely they should see the reasons they wanted to employ me in the first place and not hold this against me. Alas it was not meant to be, but obviously if i could turn back time i know exactly what i would do.

[SKI-preo]

My old boss has put me on websites, in journal articles, had thousands of dollars worth of printing done in the last month. I am giving seminars & conducting huge conferences, expos. Bloody hell! Soap celebrities are my clients. How do I tell him? -a psychologist friend thinks I can't make a decision because I think I do not deserve my success.20 years ago my only clothes were my school uniform-which was second hand.

[joanna]

You see that is a problem in life, you like myself , sell yourself low. If he appreciates you, and realises your worth then he would have come and offered you the pay rise you found elsewhere. Otherwise he is making money off your back and might be verbally giving you credit, but unless he is showing you the cash, then words are great, but money is better so go for it and dont look back. You could try what i did and go speak to him, but then you risk him being pissed and getting what i did.

[Oracle]

Sounds like you should invest in yourself.

[Gasman]

Lucky thing your new boss didn't know how difficult you find it take decisions?

[joanna]

At the end of the day, gotta look out for number 1, i know that sounds bad, but i personally loved my boss, but he didnt love me. Now i have another v good boss, im not looking for another job, but if the job i lost was offered to me again, yes i'd go. I'm not saying it wouldnt be hard to say goodbye, but they'll get over it, meanwhile your career will be moving on and up. Best of luck to you

[pretty-as-pink]

take your mind off it ski pro and tell me where the best place is ti go skiing with the family.
actually its snow boarding and we want to book up:-)

[CBBB]

Rule No.1

If you have applied for another job, you obviously want to leave your current employment, so if you are offered it go, don't accept any promises from your curent employer.

Rule No.2

If an employee tells you he has another job and is going to leave, let him go, because whatever you offer him that he accepts, he will do it again in a couple of months.

Rule No.3

Nobody, despite what they may think, is irreplacable

These 3 rules have always worked for me as both employee and employer.

[beverley10]

I concur with CBBB it all makes perfect sense if you look at it the way he has simply put it.