you can't expect people who have lost homes and members of their families to agree anything that maks them think history will repeat itself.
I agree. But a "solution" that is undemocratic, unfair, that will not respect human rights is exactly what will create the same problems again.
Also, I am sorry about your family, but we had also such families, 10x the number of yours. Did you expect from as to just sit and watch the invasion without reaction? The invasion is a very violent thing with many
innocents as victims, when somebody sees his family killed and his home occupied is hard for this person to keep calm and react reasonably.
For example many innocent not armed Americans have been killed in Iraq. Such actions are of course very bad. But when the Americans occupy their country and kill several of them every day then it is easy to see why the Iraqis are so mad and can not keep calm.
So lets stop using the
EXCUSES over and over to justify what can not be justified. If you want an excuse to do something you will find it.
The excuses can be very bad, like the excuse the Americans gave to invade Iraq the second time, or can be better ones, like the excuse Turkey gave to invade Cyprus. Still, they are all excuses, and you have to look beyond them to find the root of the problem.
The root of the problem in Cyprus that creates all other problems is this:
Cyprus is in a very strategic place and all regional and world powers would like to control it.
The british had it under control, until 1960, but when they saw that the great majority of Cypriots didn't want them and fought against them, they applied their well known (from other countries) "divide and rule" policies. They spited the people between Greeks and Turks and they put us to fight each other.
Turkey always wanted to control Cyprus since the time they lost it to the British. Because Britain was very powerful, they couldn't achieve anything while Cyprus was still under the Brits. But when the Brits saw that they couldn't keep Cyprus under full control, they brought Turkey back in, as a part of their "divide and rule" policy.
The British created an independence plan for us, that would create the Republic of Cyprus. Within this plan their interests where secured: They maintained huge sovereign military bases, and their divide and rule policy was in place: They gave a lot of extra rights to a minority, so the majority will not feel good about it and therefore everything would be fragile. They also gave intervention rights to Greece and Turkey.
As it was planed, the majority had problems to accept the disproportional rights that were given to a minority and conflicts started. In 1974 the military that controlled Greece (and was controlled by the Americans) decided to create a coup in Cyprus with the help of some Greek Cypriot traitors. Turkey took the chance she was waiting for to invade Cyprus and she did it. Not to protect TC, that was the excuse, but to occupy Cyprus for the own strategic reasons.
So its all the fault of foreigners, you might ask. No, we have faults too. Our biggest one is that we left those foreigners to manipulate us. We left them create hate between us, and then we left the decide the solution for our own country.
If we want to solve the Cyprus problem we should unite as Cypriots. If we are united we can create a country that serves our interests and not the interests of others. We should be able to see beyond the excuses and strike directly where the real reasons are.