Hi NickP,
the reason promises of flights, aid and trade have not been fulfilled is because the GC government shares your view of hindering Turkish independence.
They have blocked flights under the auspices that Ercan does not meet international standards, they have blocked free trade because it would give the north more strength at the negotiating table, they have blocked aid because they insist they have control over how it is spent.These to me are very worrying developments when they are trying to reconcile two people. It cannot be done with a siege mentality on the Turks.
As for what EU has to lose, they have the chance of losing possibly the most democratic and powerful of the muslim countries. Turkey is needed to show the Muslim world that the west in not a crusading Christian club, an eastern European country cant show this. Their membership would promote democratic stablity across the middle east, this is why America is so keen for Turkey to join.
Also you only have to look for support for Turkeys entry by The Economist to know that the EU has a flagging economy which needs a boost that Turkey can provide.
That is the difference with the UK and most of continental Europe. The UK looks at the EU as an economic group which can bring prosperity and stability. The continent looks at it a political and cultural union between white, Christian, Europeans.