Sega wrote:This has again to do with men tolerating that kind of behavior. You need to remember than people who make out to be the be-all and end-all of the universe, do so because they were spoiled, or mistreated and decided to take a stand.
Taking from your thread that you are a man. I would like to give you some good advice, one which I hope will stick to you through your life. Not everybody is the same, we all get what we deserve, and people hardly (if ever) change.
Having said this, if I was to meet a woman who was spoiled, up her self and spoke down to me, I would simply ignore her and move along. If I was to meet a woman who displayed symptoms of laziness, I would move along. I do not have time to waste with immature women.
I have to say that this is quite spot-on. When I was in dating mode, I certainly gave several Cyp girls a shot. Two problems though-
1. Back in the '90's, they cooled off when they found out I'm based in NY,
2. After a bit of moaning, it seemed they had little to say. Example - when one mentioned over dinner that she was in Medical school, I said it was a noble profession and the world needed more people that care about others enough to really want to help them. She curtly said that was what her father wanted her to do. Rightly or wrongly, I took it as a "bugger off" statement - and fair enough, nobody was forcing her give two figs about me. If I had been trying to pick her up in a club or something, I could've turned that around. I just choose to not surround myself with negativity like that, and simply moved on.
Ultimately, I married an American girl. Nobody gave me a hard time with the cross-cultural thing at all. But in my family, an uncle married an American lady, another married a British lady, etc, etc and all were welcomed with open arms. So I'm fortunate enough to among open minded (not just good) folks in a general sense.
The bottom line, and what anybody should take away from your post that I quoted, is that everybody (men
and women) need to be confident in what they want and are doing. Lack of confidence will affect people professionally as well as personally. Not everybody will agree with everything we do. People need to understand that that's perfectly OK. If you're unhappy, it doesn't really matter how happy everybody else is.