Kikapu wrote:BirKibrisli wrote:I am sorry,Kikapu,saying lets have peace first and empathy and compassion will follow is like saying lets have the wedding first and love and passion will follow...
Well, that's how it use to be in the past, wasn’t it ? Well, at least with the TCs and the Turks and almost all Muslim countries. Still the case with many countries as well as in Turkey and in the TC community.!BirKibrisli wrote:The 2 sides do not trust each other...They do not respect each other...They have very little understanding and sympathy for each other...They are deeply suspicious of each other's motives and good intentions...How can you possibly expect this union to work without some ground work,building bridges,improving trust and understanding...????
Given the above, Bir, how do you expect them to have love and passion before the wedding.??
No, what will get these two sides together initially is an offer of Just & Fair settlement which will benefit each side economically and politically if they truly want to remain as a "couple", and the True Federation will be a system where the two sides will be joint at the hip to each other. With such a method where everything is in the open as an open society, more and more trust will build over time, then they will give each other all the empathy and understand of their past mistakes to each other. You are expecting too much for empathy and understanding to happen when at the moment because they only care about their own miseries and not the miseries of others. I wish I was wrong, but since what you wish for has not already happened on a very large scale, it still has a long way to go before it does.
BirKibrisli wrote:Lets not beat around the bush....Nothing will happen without a compromise...There is no mutual trust and respect...No amount of wishful thinking will make the TCs get back into this relationship unless their fundamental fears for their lives are guaranteed to their satisfaction,Kikapu...
And who has ever said anything differently, that compromises are not needed or will need not to be made to get a settlement. The question is, are you going to ask the GCs to give up on their Democratic and Human Rights and give them to the TCs instead. If you are, then my guess is they are going to tell the TCs "not in your life". Security for all will need to be addressed since both sides has their own concerns, therefore a neutral party will need to be the catalyst to become the compromise for both sides to accept. Each side does need to give up in what they really want, that's why it is called a "compromise", otherwise it is called "my way or the highway".! For example, guess who protects the pope in the Vatican. It is not the Italians, the Irish, or the British. No, it is a neutral country called Switzerland. I'm not suggesting the Swiss should do it in Cyprus, but NATO is a very reliable force, specially if Cyprus were to also become a member. It was the membership of Greece and Turkey in NATO that has prevented wars between those nations. Same can apply here in Cyprus.
BirKibrisli wrote:You are wasting your time and energy...The TCs will not listen to your arguments because they see no difference between yours and the GCs'...The same way the GCs will be deaf to Bananiot's arguments...
Hence the problem. In any case, I only give my own personal opinions. I have not been elevated to talk on anyone's behalf, unlike VP, for the majority TCs. He is hardly the face you would want to represent the TCs, but if that's the reality in what you say, then it is going to take more than me telling the GCs in what they have/are doing wrong to feel sorry for the TCs in large numbers. All they have to do is tell me, "yeah, but look who we have to deal with" is what will happen when you put VP's face to become the face of the majority TCs.
They only want to listen to what has been preached to them over the last 35+ years, because they believed for such a long time that they had the upper hand in getting what they wanted for a solution, because of Turkey's military force. RoC being in the EU has pretty much taken away all that "advantage" in what the north thought they had. It is no longer just 800,000 GCs to deal with where another kind of 1960 constitution or the Annan Plan can be forced upon them. Now they have become part of 500 Million other Europeans to be under their rules and regulations in the form of the EU Principles. All the GCs need to is just say to the TCs, "sorry, no can do in what you want, because Brussels will not allow it". So the only choice that will remain for the TCs is to stay as they are in their present predicament, look for recognition, as they have done so for the last 35+ years to no avail, or accept a settlement that is Fair & Just where everyone will need to live under the rules of the EU Club. The agreed Fair & Just settlement does not need to be implemented overnight, but the foundations of the new Federal Republic will need to be well and truly established and agreed on even if it means going through stages in getting it done. It may take 5,10,15 years to see it through.
That is far different than what you advocate, which is to agree on a faulty plan now just for the sake of getting a settlement in the hopes that the parties in the future can unite in a more democratic way. Has the 13 point proposed by Makarios has not thought us anything and how it was rejected. Those proposal too was meant to be more democratic, but not everyone wanted more democracy because the status quo was just fine with them. So what makes you think a faulty plan for one side now can be made better in the future if the side who has gotten better part of the deal is going to give some back to the side who has gotten less in the first place. If you think that will need to happen for a long term peace, then why not give the TCs the bad part of the faulty plan now, so that in the future the GCs can give some of their privileges to the TCs if they can be trusted. I hope you can see what I'm doing here. In order to ask something that you think is what’s needed for a settlement, just reverse the roles and see what you come up with and see if you agree with it. I'm not at all taking the GCs side on this or anything else for that matter, I'm just understanding the unfairness in what you are asking, because I sure do not want such unfair faulty plans for the TCs to be stuck with, in the hopes that we can get more in the future.!
BirKibrisli wrote:You might have moved on but the average TC living day in day out in Cyprus have not... You can make a really good contribution on this forum if you started taking on some of the more extreme GC forumers here,who are openly insulting all things Turkish and TC...
We all need to come to terms with our past at some point, Bir. Do you really think I have forgotten being in that neighbour's room with 20 others in Küçük Kaymakli in 1963 when we were discovered by the GCs pointing their guns at us and taken as prisoners.? Do you think I have forgotten eating, washing and sleeping in my uncle's carpenters' small storage room with my grandmother.? Do you think I have forgotten lining up to get food from a UN food centre using our rations cards.? Do you think I have forgotten not seeing my mother and siblings after I left in 1964 for 4 years while she was left behind with 5 small children to care for while she worked to cook for the TC fighters and living in run down buildings.? No my friend, nothing is forgotten, Don't let my and my family’s "moved on" claims give you false impression that we have forgotten what we went through or that we did not have it as bad as others, therefore the others cannot move on unless we have a settlement on something like Annan plan to ease their pain and suffering. It is likely to continue due to further resentment by the majority for once again the TCs getting a better deal than they, regardless what the TCs went through between 1963-1974.!
BirKibrisli wrote:By remaining silent you give those comments your silent approval...That is what hurts most TCs here,I am sure...
I’m sorry my friend, but such "quilt trip" accusations does not work with me. I find this to be a very extremist attitude in fact, which is no different than what you accused the GCs here on the forum, for them grouping all the TCs in the north as thieves just because some have dealt in stolen GC land.. Lets keep our eyes on the ball shall we and not become another George Bush with his extremist views like "either you are with us, or against us" attitude, specially coming from someone like yourself whom I admire, whose views had not been any different than mine for the last 3 years.!