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[iceman]

Just a thought, if the Pyla incident proves that GCs and Tcs cannot coexist, what does the wedding fracas prove?

proves that we have serious compatibility issues

[repulsewarrior]

funny, in my village, everyone "turk" or "greek" pinned money on the bride as they danced at the wedding whether they were "greek" or "turkish"...

...what does that say about the Cyprus that "was".

but what do i know, my village was "mixed".

[iceman]

funny, in my village, everyone "turk" or "greek" pinned money on the bride as they danced at the wedding whether they were "greek" or "turkish"...

...what does that say about the Cyprus that "was".

but what do i know, my village was "mixed".

The local TV station Kibris TV did a programme called "50 years together" where every week they visited the house of a couple married over 50 years and talked to them about the times they got married.
Very informative programme indeed,it was very popular.
According to those people 50-60 years ago the weddings were (according to the wealth of the families) anywhere between 3-7 days long where the whole village (GC/TC) cooked/ate/danced in other words celebrated together..
Don't know what the procedure is in the south these days but in the north most weddings have turned into two hour pain sessions where guests are expected to go and stand in long ques to pin money to the newly weds and then walk off...

[Nikitas]

Last real Cypriot wedding I attended was in Vatyli or Lysi, cannot remember exactly which, in the summer of 1973. I was driving through and they stopped me and led me to a table, even though I was not invited and was a total stranger. Had macaroni in chicken broth and a few glasses of brandy.

Since then it has been the factory style receptions. We are becoming more European we think.

[Kikapu]

Last real Cypriot wedding I attended was in Vatyli or Lysi, cannot remember exactly which, in the summer of 1973. I was driving through and they stopped me and led me to a table, even though I was not invited and was a total stranger. Had macaroni in chicken broth and a few glasses of brandy.

Since then it has been the factory style receptions. We are becoming more European we think.

So Nikitas, in the end, just exactly how much money did that macaroni & chicken cost you when you ended up pinning money on the bride and the groom.?

[Raymanoff]

Weddings these days are just a fundraisers... we get invited from people who haven't spoke to us for a decade... or whom i don't really know, i refuse to go.

[Piratis]

There will always be such problems when people from different cultures and religions mix.

The more attached to religion and traditions you are the hardest it is to mix with people who do not belong in the same group. This becomes even harder when money is involved.

[pantheman]

The pinnining money has been streamlined in CY now. No pinning, just an envelope on entry when you wish the happy couple congrats.

The big proikas are given outside of the wedding day ceremony.

Ask me I should know

[miltiades]

The pinnining money has been streamlined in CY now. No pinning, just an envelope on entry when you wish the happy couple congrats.

The big proikas are given outside of the wedding day ceremony.

Ask me I should know

Although "money pinning " has been a Cypriot tradition for years and years it has now as P says been replaced by the "envelope".
I was pleased when my daughter got married a few years ago that they chose the "envelope" as a way of receiving money from guests instead of the " traditional" and rather ostentatious "money pinning" .
I do entirely agree in this very wise tradition in helping a newly married couple with hard cash rather than gifts .
As for "Prika" I'm all for it , all the help that our young couples can receive so much the better for them and their offsprings , hopefully after the wedding !!

[halil]

I have heard this story last night from a friend,i hope Halil can give us the details,the incident happened in the village next to Halils village Pinarbasi (Krini)

A TC young man from the village of Dagyolu (Fota) marries a Turkish settlers daughter from a Alaykoy (Gerolakkos).
As the tradition goes,at the wedding in Fota,money and jewellery is pinned on the young couple by the family and the guests.
As the wedding ceremony ends,the family of the bride decide to gather all the pinned money and jewellery and leave saying,according to their tradition since the groom did not pay any "baslik parasi" the money/gold belongs to them.
Naturally the groom objects to this so a fight between the young groom and brides family break out resulting in the groom being beating up.
By now the whole Fota village hears the story and gathers,rounding up the brides family and giving them a good proper hiding & chasing them out of the village..

I have no idea what happened to the young couple,maybe Halil will give use more details...


baslik parasi=money paid by the groom to the family of the bride in exchange for their daughter.(this is a tradition in rural Turkey and is not practiced by TC's)

Hi Iceman ,
what you heard is true . Fota (Dağyolu) is my birth place .we went that wedding but we left earlier to go to another wedding .

Villager didn't let them to get money . Money and jewellery is back to couple .There living happly now in their home .

İceman , i hope same thing can not happenes to us as well .you never know your daughter or son will not marry to one of the families that came from Turkey .This is love man .

my son now engaged to one girl ,her father is from Turkey and mother is Cypriot from Paphos .
both of them will be teacher this year .we are planning to make engagement party at february .now they have ring ceremony between themself without families .Not all of vthem same .

even my father paid Başlık parası to my mother before they married . every place has got their own customes .