i am opening this thread with the hope that it will be made a sticky by the administration of the forum.
this is the place where we can make our restitution for speaking too harshly or unthinkingly, and it is a place to vent when this behaviour gets to you. i hope it will get used as an arena, when forum members are challenged to meet here and to argue for their credibility, when they call a person a murderer, a racist, a traitor, etc.
i am a man who believes one is greater when they suffer their own humility. i am not afraid to say, i am sorry, because i learned from my mistakes and i govern my life accordingly; to be giving and to stay calm. I have failed my self rarely, and the one time that the admin removed my post i was sorry because it was a fine insult; point being there are limits, and we have no place to reflect on our own behaviour when it goes 'too far'.
look at your own writings. there must be something where you learned something, that in you, you had to improve, or deny bettering yourself.
...tell us.
and when you are insulted, or brought into intimidation: challenge the author to meet here, to bat it out so that the forum can make their own evaluation of your personal dilemas, without encumbering threads with more malaise.
...be for non-violence, act (and express yourself) accordingly, here, and make a bigger statement.
most of all i hope that it will provide for us a venue which shows us beyond the bitterness, the courage we have within ourselves to overcome our fears, there is our compassion, and the desire to have Grace. otherwise i have popcorn, and if anyone does use the thread, for other reasons more base, it will be ready.