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[cyprusgrump]

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[Oracle]

Thought for the day then… I give you…


…wait for it…


Is there a ‘perfect partner’ for each of us?

Define "perfect partner" first.

Does quantity come into it, or do your believe if they are perfect that you only need the one?

What about the changing stages of our lives, does a perfect partner in our twenties, if perfect, develop in the same way as us, and still be perfect for us in our 40's.

Or are they perfect, by being disposable, every time we change "moods" ...

[cyprusgrump]

Thought for the day then… I give you…


…wait for it…


Is there a ‘perfect partner’ for each of us?

Define "perfect partner" first.

Does quantity come into it, or do your believe if they are perfect that you only need the one?

What about the changing stages of our lives, does a perfect partner in our twenties, if perfect, develop in the same way as us, and still be perfect for us in our 40's.

Or are they perfect, by being disposable, every time we change "moods" ...

I may have opened a can of worms here…

Okay…

I guess I was thinking that, with approximately three billion potential partners of the opposite sex in the world it is strange that most of us choose to spend our lives with one of the few people we meet at work. I believe that many people make compromises in their choice of partner because of the limited number of potentials that they come into contact on a day-to-day basis. I’m sure we’ve all seen friends that find something abhorrent (going to football, the pub, smoking, etc.), yet start going out with somebody new and then seem to delight in spending every weekend at the football/in the pub/with a cigarette in their mouths…

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

However, it is true that we change as we get older – perhaps in the millions of potential candidates for each of us there are some that would change at the same rate as us and therefore continue to be perfect for life?

[Oracle]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

[miltiades]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

Oracle what on earth are you on about ? Cypriot men ARE partners to the vast majority of Cypriot women , there is no adverse effect because of genetical similarities , black birds with blackbirds , canaries with canaries , what is it that determines the level of "novelty " with a partner , and how does one interpret "novelty" , is it perhaps the excitement that children go through on being given a new toy , or is it as I suspect a subconscious state of subliminal precariousness that generally surfaces after a certain age !!

[Oracle]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

Oracle what on earth are you on about ? Cypriot men ARE partners to the vast majority of Cypriot women , there is no adverse effect because of genetical similarities , black birds with blackbirds , canaries with canaries , what is it that determines the level of "novelty " with a partner , and how does one interpret "novelty" , is it perhaps the excitement that children go through on being given a new toy , or is it as I suspect a subconscious state of subliminal precariousness that generally surfaces after a certain age !!

Miltiades ... you married an English woman right?

[miltiades]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

Oracle what on earth are you on about ? Cypriot men ARE partners to the vast majority of Cypriot women , there is no adverse effect because of genetical similarities , black birds with blackbirds , canaries with canaries , what is it that determines the level of "novelty " with a partner , and how does one interpret "novelty" , is it perhaps the excitement that children go through on being given a new toy , or is it as I suspect a subconscious state of subliminal precariousness that generally surfaces after a certain age !!

Miltiades ... you married an English woman right?

Well I couldn't marry a Cypriot man Could I now !
The Cypriot girls are in my opinion absolutely gorgeous , I only married my English wife cause ..... she fell in love with me ! , she could have been a Martian it would have made no difference !!
This reminds me of a real life story, many years ago while driving back from Liverpool to London along with my brother in law , conversation turned to women , typical of Cypriot men , where we talked about different experiences we had with different nationality girls , before we got hitched that is , and on listening to my brother in law elaborating on the different nationalities of submissive females , I posed the question by saying ""I have never "tangoed " with a Cypriot lady , have you ever tangoed with a Cypriot woman ?
Tango with a Cypriot woman he replies , Ive been screwing your sister for years man what you talking about !!

[cyprusgrump]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

I think it would be unwise to discuss individuals…

Generally speaking, the majority of people choose their partner from their own ethnic group.

I’m not suggesting it is wrong to do so, my point is that even if you were extremely selective in the attributes that you would find acceptable in a partner the choice would still be huge…

[Oracle]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

I think it would be unwise to discuss individuals…

Generally speaking, the majority of people choose their partner from their own ethnic group.

I’m not suggesting it is wrong to do so, my point is that even if you were extremely selective in the attributes that you would find acceptable in a partner the choice would still be huge…

Has Svetlana frightened you with her lock ... I've still got some way to go to meet DT.'s record

Back to topic ....

So you eliminated all but Brits when you made your selection(s) then?

Hybrids are more vigorous you know, and a little dose of genetic mixing improves the stock ... compare the Royal Family with those that out-breed more

(Let's see if that squeezes through as acceptable ....)

[cyprusgrump]

So my initial point was probably of the three billion potential partners in the world, eliminating the vast majority who don’t speak your language/share your religion/ideals/likes/dislikes, etc. you must be left with several millions that would appear to be ‘ideal’ and would not require compromise…?

Aaaaahhhh ... but Cyprusgrump why start off with eliminating from the pool of vast choice, regardless of creed, religion, language. None of these are insurmountable when open to finding the perfect partner (... is that the same as ideal? ) ...

Although I find Cypriot men most attractive, I have never got over the "close kin" factor .. and so cannot imagine myself with a Cypriot as a partner ... genetically too similar to offer novelty.

I find opposites attract a great draw ....

I think it would be unwise to discuss individuals…

Generally speaking, the majority of people choose their partner from their own ethnic group.

I’m not suggesting it is wrong to do so, my point is that even if you were extremely selective in the attributes that you would find acceptable in a partner the choice would still be huge…

Has Svetlana frightened you with her lock ... I've still got some way to go to meet DT.'s record

Back to topic ....

So you eliminated all but Brits when you made your selection(s) then?

Hybrids are more vigorous you know, and a little dose of genetic mixing improves the stock ... compare the Royal Family with those that out-breed more

(Let's see if that squeezes through as acceptable ....)

No, I think you’ve missed the point completely…

Firstly, it is nothing to do with threads being locked – it is a general discussion about the majority – not certain individuals.

My original post questioned why we chose our partners from the relatively small numbers of people that we interact with at work when the ‘pool’ of potential candidates for our love is so vast… Also, do we compromise our ideals to fit-in with the people we happen to be thrown together with?

Imagine if you sat somebody in front of a computer that had all six and a half billion people on the planet registered and asked them to click selection criteria to choose their ideal partner. They could click ‘opposite sex’ (well mostly), leaving three-ish billion, language, ethnicity, height, weight, eye colour, interests, smoker, drinker, education, etc. In fact you could be incredibly specific yet I’m guessing that the list of potentials would still be vast…

That’s not to say that you wouldn’t walk outside and bump into somebody that met none of your criteria (or Kevin Costner) and fall for them immediately…