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[IcyNoAngel]

By the way once I will have to agree with Get Real, I doubt if Sophia is taking this seriously...if I remember correct is the same Sophia who did not know how old she was and she kept changing her age...she was willing to destroy a girls life and go and tell things to her parents because she was telling people that she dated her best fiend (or something like that), the same Sophia who swear worst that a track driver etc etc ... anyway how serious could this thread be since she is with this guy as she says and she has nothing good to say about him and she is making fun of him behind his back...i wonder why she is with him?

I think you post because you like to hear yourself talking.

[LENA]

I am afraid we dont have the same habits IcyNoAngel...

[Mills Chapman]

Mills have you ever been in love? If you do you should know that being in love is not a check list that you go through to realize that you are or are not in love.


Also the "symptoms" of being in love varies from one to the other ... its not always the same you know. Also the situation can change a lot...

Lena, I never said these were the only ways to know and that it was always the same. I meant it as more of a rough guide.

Sometimes when we are on the edge of being in love, we experience a range of conflicting emotions, and it can help to hear what others think of as being in love and not being in love. And, when we are most confused as to whether it's real or not (often this happens if we have low self-esteem and don't trust our gut), it can help to hear some criteria,

which is better than nothing or just short sentences lacking substance.

Also, I know a fair amount of people who have gotten divorced, and that's why I posted those questions... again, a loose guide of what to talk about now so that you don't have to talk about other stuff later on in divorce court.

[IcyNoAngel]

I am afraid we dont have the same habits IcyNoAngel...

That's exactly my point, we don't.
So, try to behave

[IcyNoAngel]

Mills have you ever been in love? If you do you should know that being in love is not a check list that you go through to realize that you are or are not in love.


Also the "symptoms" of being in love varies from one to the other ... its not always the same you know. Also the situation can change a lot...

Lena, I never said these were the only ways to know and that it was always the same. I meant it as more of a rough guide.

Sometimes when we are on the edge of being in love, we experience a range of conflicting emotions, and it can help to hear what others think of as being in love and not being in love. And, when we are most confused as to whether it's real or not (often this happens if we have low self-esteem and don't trust our gut), it can help to hear some criteria,

which is better than nothing or just short sentences lacking substance.

Also, I know a fair amount of people who have gotten divorced, and that's why I posted those questions... again, a loose guide of what to talk about now so that you don't have to talk about other stuff later on in divorce court.

You are probably talking about people that cannot feel for themselves, think for themselves and be themselves.
If everybody would think outside of the box it would probably be too crowded out here.

[Mills Chapman]

Mills have you ever been in love? If you do you should know that being in love is not a check list that you go through to realize that you are or are not in love.


Also the "symptoms" of being in love varies from one to the other ... its not always the same you know. Also the situation can change a lot...

Lena, I never said these were the only ways to know and that it was always the same. I meant it as more of a rough guide.

Sometimes when we are on the edge of being in love, we experience a range of conflicting emotions, and it can help to hear what others think of as being in love and not being in love. And, when we are most confused as to whether it's real or not (often this happens if we have low self-esteem and don't trust our gut), it can help to hear some criteria,

which is better than nothing or just short sentences lacking substance.

Also, I know a fair amount of people who have gotten divorced, and that's why I posted those questions... again, a loose guide of what to talk about now so that you don't have to talk about other stuff later on in divorce court.

You are probably talking about people that cannot feel for themselves, think for themselves and be themselves.
If everybody would think outside of the box it would probably be too crowded out here.

No, I am talking about people - including myself - who can feel, think, and be themselves but who sometimes don't trust all of their emotions in the heat of the moment. Our emotions can make us tell someone, "I love you" and then after some days apart, we realize that we don't really "love" that person in such an intimate way and that now we can't take it back since we've already said it.

[LENA]

Mills when she will be in love she will know it ... or someone will make her realise that because she will change in some ways...she doesnt need a list...because as I said that depends on the situation and the person who is in love.

Just to make you realise what I mean...one of the things you said in your list is that she will want to meet his family...well imagine if she fell in love with a married guy or a guy who his parents are criminals or whatever...do you think she will want to meet his family? No

Imagine if she fell in love with someone who is not in love with her....she wont feel happy and breath easier as you pointed but the opposite...she will feel sad and she will feel weird when she will be with him and her breathing will be difficult.

Also being in love doesnt really mean that you found everything you were looking for or is the right person...as they say love is blind...

As for the other part of your small list which lead to marriage issues I am not the right person to comment since I am single but some of those bits i dont really see them in real life....not all the couples has this perfect communication between them and understand each other.

What you wrote down sound as the ideal things...and a very well planned love and marriage!

Well I am not that logical that I will decide if I am in love and I want to get married according to numbers and how many ticks I have in my list.

I wonder how many of our members here that are married follow that list or had thought of all those things you wrote down.

[LENA]

I am afraid we dont have the same habits IcyNoAngel...

That's exactly my point, we don't.
So, try to behave

Whatever...

[Mills Chapman]

Mills when she will be in love she will know it ... or someone will make her realise that because she will change in some ways...she doesnt need a list...because as I said that depends on the situation and the person who is in love.

Just to make you realise what I mean...one of the things you said in your list is that she will want to meet his family...well imagine if she fell in love with a married guy or a guy who his parents are criminals or whatever...do you think she will want to meet his family? No

Imagine if she fell in love with someone who is not in love with her....she wont feel happy and breath easier as you pointed but the opposite...she will feel sad and she will feel weird when she will be with him and her breathing will be difficult.

Also being in love doesnt really mean that you found everything you were looking for or is the right person...as they say love is blind...

As for the other part of your small list which lead to marriage issues I am not the right person to comment since I am single but some of those bits i dont really see them in real life....not all the couples has this perfect communication between them and understand each other.

What you wrote down sound as the ideal things...and a very well planned love and marriage!

Well I am not that logical that I will decide if I am in love and I want to get married according to numbers and how many ticks I have in my list.

Hi Lena,

I agree with a lot of what you said. Ideally she won't need a list, and this list is not ideal, but it's like a last resort when people have tried to conclude through other means. I have someone very close to me who doubts herself a lot and who had a very hard time deciding if she was in love with a guy (and she had been in love with someone else before).

I wonder how many of our members here that are married follow that list or had thought of all those things you wrote down.

I wonder the opposite about the members here who are divorced (meaning they wish they had considered these things).

[IcyNoAngel]

No, I am talking about people - including myself - who can feel, think, and be themselves but who sometimes don't trust all of their emotions in the heat of the moment. Our emotions can make us tell someone, "I love you" and then after some days apart, we realize that we don't really "love" that person in such an intimate way and that now we can't take it back since we've already said it.

Are you sure you ain't talking about physical attraction? This feeling, or let's better say concept, of love should not make you irrational. You should think before you say something to anybody; not thinking could make the situation to get really ugly.

As dear Lena said, love is blind, but that doesn't mean everybody must be stupid if they fall in love.