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[phoenix]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

[Bill]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

My perfect mama from Samos used to chase me round the kitchen with a knife in her hand ~~ err I didn't really make many complaints and anything she did for me was just fine ~ honest.

Bill

[GorillaGal]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

My perfect mama from Samos used to chase me round the kitchen with a knife in her hand ~~ err I didn't really make many complaints and anything she did for me was just fine ~ honest.

Bill

that explains alot.

[GorillaGal]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

poor poor Phoenix! i totally understand, but i don't have the kids.... i tried to take care of a husband and a dying mother, i know how hard it is. my husband was "sick" (an alcoholic) and couldn't keep a job down, i was working 3 jobs at the time. i am glad that part of my life is over now.

do you have any sibblings that can help with your mom?

[phoenix]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

My perfect mama from Samos used to chase me round the kitchen with a knife in her hand ~~ err I didn't really make many complaints and anything she did for me was just fine ~ honest.

Bill

that explains alot.

GG it may explain Bill's peccadilloes, but Samos is a Greek island .... are you Cypriot or Greek Bill, .... or just confused / dazed / scarred for life?

[GorillaGal]

Phoenix (and Bill)

i was only teasing him.
but at least now i know where Samos is, or what it is.

[phoenix]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

poor poor Phoenix! i totally understand, but i don't have the kids.... i tried to take care of a husband and a dying mother, i know how hard it is. my husband was "sick" (an alcoholic) and couldn't keep a job down, i was working 3 jobs at the time. i am glad that part of my life is over now.

do you have any sibblings that can help with your mom?

GG don't give me any sympathy or I may just break down

I can cope, it's just that the mamma's Greek and very independent /peculiar / senile and she keeps throwing my things away that she does not approve of (e.g. Hats !).

The son is acting more and more Cypriot Male .... "gotta tell the women what to do" sort of attitude.

And I am so pleasant and easy going ( ) that I seriously run the risk of being obliterated .....

[GorillaGal]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

poor poor Phoenix! i totally understand, but i don't have the kids.... i tried to take care of a husband and a dying mother, i know how hard it is. my husband was "sick" (an alcoholic) and couldn't keep a job down, i was working 3 jobs at the time. i am glad that part of my life is over now.

do you have any sibblings that can help with your mom?

GG don't give me any sympathy or I may just break down

I can cope, it's just that the mamma's Greek and very independent /peculiar / senile and she keeps throwing my things away that she does not approve of (e.g. Hats !).

The son is acting more and more Cypriot Male .... "gotta tell the women what to do" sort of attitude.

And I am so pleasant and easy going ( ) that I seriously run the risk of being obliterated .....

i KNOW what it's like. only instead of the son, it was my sisters telling me i wasn't doing it well enough.
meanwhile, they were only able to deal with Mom for about 2 hours once a month. i had to deal with Mom on a daily basis.

[phoenix]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

poor poor Phoenix! i totally understand, but i don't have the kids.... i tried to take care of a husband and a dying mother, i know how hard it is. my husband was "sick" (an alcoholic) and couldn't keep a job down, i was working 3 jobs at the time. i am glad that part of my life is over now.

do you have any sibblings that can help with your mom?

GG don't give me any sympathy or I may just break down

I can cope, it's just that the mamma's Greek and very independent /peculiar / senile and she keeps throwing my things away that she does not approve of (e.g. Hats !).

The son is acting more and more Cypriot Male .... "gotta tell the women what to do" sort of attitude.

And I am so pleasant and easy going ( ) that I seriously run the risk of being obliterated .....

i KNOW what it's like. only instead of the son, it was my sisters telling me i wasn't doing it well enough.
meanwhile, they were only able to deal with Mom for about 2 hours once a month. i had to deal with Mom on a daily basis.

You must have achieved a sense of self-fulfillment looking after mum, right?

At least you did not have to question that you were carrying out your duties?

So are you satisfied with what you achieved?

My mum is quite a character so I really do not mind, it's just that I end up feeling completely inadequate .....

If she was 20 years younger she would have solved the Cyprus Problem ......

[GorillaGal]

I feel like a let down, stuck between looking after an 80 year old mum and a 10 year old son, nothing I do is quite good enough.

Well what would your perfect Cypriot Mamma do for you .....

poor poor Phoenix! i totally understand, but i don't have the kids.... i tried to take care of a husband and a dying mother, i know how hard it is. my husband was "sick" (an alcoholic) and couldn't keep a job down, i was working 3 jobs at the time. i am glad that part of my life is over now.

do you have any sibblings that can help with your mom?

GG don't give me any sympathy or I may just break down

I can cope, it's just that the mamma's Greek and very independent /peculiar / senile and she keeps throwing my things away that she does not approve of (e.g. Hats !).

The son is acting more and more Cypriot Male .... "gotta tell the women what to do" sort of attitude.

And I am so pleasant and easy going ( ) that I seriously run the risk of being obliterated .....

i KNOW what it's like. only instead of the son, it was my sisters telling me i wasn't doing it well enough.
meanwhile, they were only able to deal with Mom for about 2 hours once a month. i had to deal with Mom on a daily basis.

You must have achieved a sense of self-fulfillment looking after mum, right?

At least you did not have to question that you were carrying out your duties?

So are you satisfied with what you achieved?

My mum is quite a character so I really do not mind, it's just that I end up feeling completely inadequate .....

If she was 20 years younger she would have solved the Cyprus Problem ......

self fulfillment? no way!
i was always questioning why. my sisters wouldn't help, and it was frustrating as mom was losing her mind the sicker she got. i didn't quiet understand what was going on, and i was never good enough for her anyway. i was her least favorite kid, yet i was the only one taking care of her, while my sisters kept telling me i wasn't good enough as well.
i did what i had to do, tried to do the best i could with the circumstances i had. i am glad it's over, i don't ever want to go back there again. i also don't want to put anyone thru doing that for me when my time comes. although i don't think there will be anyone to care for me anyway. no children of my own, and my sisters would never help me out, not once in a million years would they ever help me.
my plan is when i can't take care of myself anymore, i use a razor on my wrists.