I know where Bill is coming from, Christmas with relatives can be a nightmare.
This Christmas was Great !! Just My husband my daughter and I and the pets of course. I did a Traditional Christmas and we loved every minuite.
I spent every year for a long time in Cyprus entertaining people who I did not like and I knew they did not like me ( they had their little ways).
Then I put my foot down and said NO!!! We are going away this year and we did, that broke the chain.
The "friends" got the hump and went thier own way, we had hardly ever been invited back to thier place so no loss.
It is rotten when a day you are looking forward to for weeks is spoiled by someone else.