boomerang, read the authentic biography of Muhammad (peace be upon him) and then give any comments otherwise don't.
Michael h. Heart wrote a book title 100 most influenced men the history of the world and he gave Number one Position to Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) check the list of all 100 to know who was Muhammad (PBUH)
apart that learn what the famous personalities like George Barnard Shah etc etc had given remarks about him
i wish you and pray for you to choose the right path
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AGAIN WATCHING STUFF FROM YOUTUBE FROM A PRIEST U MAKE UR MIND HALF TRUTH IS ALWAYS MISLEADING U SHOULD LOOK AT THE BOTH SIDES OF THE STORY.PROPHET MUHAMMAD(PEACE BE UPON HIM)U R ACCUSING HIM IS OF SOME ACTS WHICH ISLAM CLEALRLY DENOUNCE IN MANY VERSES OF QURAN.PROPHET MUHAMMAD MARRIED TO HIS ONE WIFE AT THE YOUNG AGE BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT SHE LIVED ON LONGER LIFE AND WAS ABLE TO TEACH MUSLIMS AND ALL OTHERS ABOUT TRUE ISLAM EVEN AFTERS PROPHETS DEATH.AND ISLAM IS A SOCIAL RELIGION AS COMPARED TO OTHER RELIGIONS AND BY MARRYING AYEESHA AT YOUNG AGE HELPED MUSLIMS TO LEARN THE MARRAIGE LIFE OF A MUSLIM.THATS WHY MOST OF THE NARRATIONS OF DOMESTIC LIFE OF PROPHET CAM EFRO AYEESHA(MAY ALLAH B PLEASED WITH HER)AND AYEESHA TO MATTER OF FACT WAS THE GREATEST OF THE SCHOLORS OF ISLAM MOSTLY BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT SHE SPEND MOST OF HER TIME WITH PROPHET FROM TEENAGE TO OLD.Any marriage is considered as legal and successful, if the three conditions hold good.
The marriage should have the blessings of one/both parents.
State/Society should not take any offense and acknowledge the matrimony.
None of the spouses should live to repent or convey his/her displeasure at the decision of his/her parents/guardians to bind him/her in such an alliance, long after the marriage has taken place. The husband and wife should be happy of being married with each other, till they die.
None of the three and especially the last one, seem to have been defied or negated by the marriage of the prophet with Ayesha (ra). I wouldn't mind marrying off my daughter or sister, if all the three conditions get satisfied and she doesn't live on to repent this decision taken by me on her behalf.
Now, let's start with the definition of 'a Paedophile', in our civilized times. Paedophiles are individuals for whom sexual fantasies about children occupy a very prominent place and persist over a long period of time. Some of them will never become child abusers. For others, however, this danger exists and may be considerable. Occasionally, individuals who realize that their fantasies are "abnormal" and who feel that they pose a threat to children take it upon themselves to consult a specialist.
Only when a paedophile translates his fantasies into action and sexually abuses a child has he committed an offence in the eyes of the law. Beyond puberty, the terms paedophile and paedophilia should not be used, though the mistake is widely made. Confusion arises here because, in the eyes of the law, a child is a person who has not yet reached the age of majority. This is set at 18 in many countries (though not all) and in all international conventions. Biologically, however, children become mature at a much earlier age.
There are a number of traits or aspects of paedophiles. These are not exclusive to paedophiles and indeed need not all occur in one paedophile to be apparent. As previously mentioned, paedophiles are not a homogenous group but a heterogeneous group. The traits delineated through a resulting profile, have been based on the research carried out in recent years. Lack of empathy with children, Low self esteem, Lack of impulse control, Denial, History of previous paedophile activity, Poor family relationships, Low IQ, Loneliness, depression and relationship needs or having been themselves sexually abused in the past.
My first question to these slanderers - If you accuse Muhammed(saw) of being a paedophile ( May God forbid and forgive me for using this term even hypothetically to relate it to him), then, how many of these traits, as mentioned above, are to be found in any credible or non-credible historical accounts of his life? Dig out a Single!
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) married Hadrat Khadijah (ra) an old widowed lady. The proposal of marriage is reported to have come from her. At that time Muhammad (saw) was of 25 years while Khadijah (ra) was 40 years old. Hadrat Sauda (ra) was the second wife of the Prophet Muhammad (saw). Both were around 50 years old when they got married.
Even if we look at it from the perspective of the victim, the slander of Prophet being a paedophile falls flat on it's nose. What happens to the person who suffers from the acts of such paedophiles? Simply put, what are the short and long term health and emotional consequences on those who get abused as a child or an adolescent? 'Peters (1988)1 suggested that child sexual abuse interacts with family background to produce disruption of the child's developing self-esteem and sense of mastery of the world (agency). It is these deficits, in turn, that increase the likelihood of psychological problems in later life. This model of developmental deficits leading to social and personal vulnerabilities in adult life, which in their turn create an increased risk of mental health problems. Greater vulnerability to depression is found in women who lack an intimate and confiding relationship (Henderson and Brown 1988; Harris 1988; Romans et al. 1992). Depression is also associated with lowered self-esteem and a sense of hopelessness about one's ability to influence one's life (Browne et al. 1986, Ingram et al. 1986). Thus the social, interpersonal and sexual problems associated with a history of child sexual abuse may themselves provide fertile ground for the development of mental health problems, particularly in the area of depressive disorders.
Now let's compare these traits to the accounts of life history of Mother Ayesha(ra), the one, whom ignorant(s) consider as someone who suffered from 'child abuse' at an early age, by all civilized definitions.
It's documented that amongst the all wives of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) Hadrat Ayesha (ra) held an prominent position. Hadrat Ayesha (ra) was the daughter of the first caliph of Islam Hadrat Abu Bakr Siddique (ra). Hadrat Ayesha (ra) married at the age of 9,12 or 19 years. Accounts vary. Hadrat Ayesha (ra) was not only superior in knowledge to all the wives of the Holy Prophet (saw) but also to the various male companions of Prophet Muhammad (saw). She passed away at the age of 63 years and never once, did she complain of her marriage with the prophet neither was she displeased of her father's consent in having her married off to the Prophet(saw). Was she scared of saying so? In one of her accounts mentioned in the same book which tells her age to be around 9, she is reported to have remarked: "I looked at the full moon and compared it to the face of prophet of God and I could not decide which one was more beautiful." This is how she felt of her husband and conveyed it to others in her mature old age.
During the lifetime of their husband many women are obedient but the real test arises after the death. An opportunity then comes to practically do what they have always liked and to abstain from what they disliked but forced to by their deceased husbands. Even after the death of the Prophet, Ayesha(ra) meticulously followed all his commands and injunctions. He had preached generosity. She retained this trait to the end of her life. He had said that for women Hajj is their jihad. She made it a point to perform Hajj every year.
She was also courageous and brave; she would often visit the graveyard alone at night to pray for the departed souls. In the thick of engagements, she would go to battlefields carrying water in leather bags on her back to quench the thirst of the fighting and injured soldiers. In the battle of trenches, when the Pagans had besieged Medina and an attack from the Jews was feared she would go around to inspect the plan of defense by the Muslims. She had sought permission of the Prophet during his lifetime, to participate actively in the battles but was refused. She was tender hearted and the fear of God never left her heart. She used to keep herself busy in prayers.
And finally, for those who see prophet's life as nothing but full of wives and harem like existence, no better words can better describe the turmoil's that he faced and abject poverty and hardships he and his wives had to endure in the face of accomplishing their God given mission.
Mother Ayesha(ra) describes it in these words: "The family of Muhammad had never eaten their fill of wheat bread for three successive days since they had migrated to Medina till the death of the Prophet." (Volume 8, Book 76, Number 461)
Her final respect for the exalted character and truthfulness of her husband speaks for itself in these words:- 'Aisha said to 'Abdullah bin Az-Zubair, "Bury me with my female companions (i.e. the wives of the Prophet) and do not bury me with the Prophet in the house, for I do not like to be regarded as sanctified (just for being buried there).'' (Volume 9:Book 92:Number 428)
And what about Zainab(ra)?
Coming to the story of Zainab(ra) who was the Holy Prophet's first cousin, being the daughter of his aunt, Umaimah, daughter of ‘Abd al-Muttalib. Zainab a full blooded Arab was intensely proud of her ancestry and exalted social status. Islam had envisaged and given to the world a civilization and culture in which there were no class divisions, no hereditary nobility, no vested interests. All men and women were to be free and equal in the sight of God. The Holy Prophet wanted to start with his own family carrying into actual effect of this noble ideal of Islam. Zainab was one of the early converts to Islam, and the Holy Prophet proposed to her brother that she should be given in marriage to Zaid. Zaid (ra) was among the slaves whom the Prophet had set free in the early days of his prophetic mission. Zaid appeared to be more intelligent and more alert than the others. He belonged to a respectable family, had been kidnapped as a child and sold from place to place until he reached Makkah. Young Zaid, newly freed, saw at once that it was better to sacrifice freedom for the sake of slavery to the Prophet. When the Prophet set the slaves free, Zaid refused to be freed and asked leave to continue to live with the Prophet. He did so, and as time went on his attachment to the Prophet grew. But in the meantime Zaid's father and his uncle were on his track and they ultimately heard he was in Makkah. In Makkah they traced him in the house of the Prophet. Coming to the Prophet, they asked for the liberty of Zaid and offered to pay as much ransom as the Prophet should demand. The Prophet said Zaid was free and could go with him as he liked. He sent for Zaid and showed him his father and uncle. After the parties had met and dried their tears, Zaid's father told him that he had been freed by his kind Master and, as his mother was much afflicted by the separation, he had better return home. Zaid replied, "Father! Who does not love his parents? My heart is full of love for you and mother. But I love this man Muhammad so much that I cannot think of living elsewhere than with him. I have met you and I am glad.. But separation from Muhammad I cannot endure." Zaid's father and his uncle did their utmost to persuade Zaid to return home with them but Zaid did not agree. Upon this the Holy Prophet said, "Zaid was a freed man already, but from today he will be my son." Seeing this affection between Zaid and the Prophet, Zaid's father and uncle went back and Zaid remained with the Prophet (Hisham).
The Prophet wished to marry Zainab to Zaid who in spite of having been liberated by the Prophet and called his son, unfortunately still carried the stigma of slavery in the minds of some people. It was exactly this invidious distinction between ‘free’ and ‘slave’ which the Holy Prophet sought to remove by Zainab’s marriage with Zaid. Both Zainab and her brother were averse to this match and only yielded under pressure from the Holy Prophet. It is related that they both desired that the Holy Prophet himself should marry Zainab. In fact when marriage was first proposed to Zainab, she gave her assent under the impression that the Prophet wanted her for himself, but the Prophet insisted that she should accept Zaid.
The marriage leveled to the ground of all class distinctions and divisions. It was a practical demonstration of Islam’s noble ideal. The marriage was however, not a happy one. The marriage however ended in failure not so much due to a difference in the social status of Zainab and Zaid as to the incompatibility of their dispositions and temperaments and also due to a feeling of inferiority from which Zaid suffered. Differences arose, and Zaid expressed a desire to the Holy Prophet of divorcing Zainab. The news was grieving for the Prophet, for it was he who had insisted upon the marriage, and he therefore advised Zaid not to divorce her. He feared that people would object that a marriage which had been arranged by the Prophet was unsuccessful.
After Zainab(ra) was divorced the Holy Prophet took her in marriage, that being the wish of the lady and her relatives before her marriage with Zaid, and the Prophet was, now that the marriage arranged by him proved unsuccessful, morally bound to accept their wishes. Moreover, the Qur’an had declared against an adopted son being regarded as if he were a real son, and now there was an opportunity where the Holy Prophet could by his own example deal a death-blow to that custom. The reason is plainly given in the second part of the verse: “We gave her to thee as a wife, so that there should be no difficulty for the believers about the wives of their adopted sons.” This verse sounds self serving to many, but wait and continue to read Zainab's(ra) perspective on this marriage..
The divorced women till today, are generally looked down upon in popular estimation, and this was a case in which a freed slave divorced a lady of high birth. By also taking such a divorced woman as his wife, the false notion that divorce degraded women was removed as well. Thus by this act, to which he was morally bound because the lady had been at first offered in marriage to him, he elevated the whole class of divorced women who would otherwise suffer life-long humiliation in society.
This simple story is made the basis of a mean attack on the Holy Prophet. It is stated that the Holy Prophet, having seen Zainab by chance through a half-open door, was fascinated by her beauty, and that Zaid, having come to know of this divorced her, and then she became the Prophet's wife. That more and more prejudiced writers accept this in present age, only shows how far religious prejudice may carry "criticism." It is admitted Zainab was the daughter of the Prophet's real aunt; it is admitted that she was one of the early believers in Islam who fled to Madinah; it is admitted that the Prophet himself had arranged the marriage between Zaid and Zainab; and finally it is admitted Zainab desired, as did also her brother, before she was married to Zaid, that she should be taken in marriage by the Holy Prophet.
What was it then which prevented the Prophet from marrying her when she was a virgin and when she herself ardently desired to get married to him? Had he not seen her before? He was so closely related to her that on the face of it such a supposition is absurd. Then there was no seclusion before Zainab’s marriage with the Prophet, a fact the truth of which is attested by all writers. Having not only seen her when she was a virgin, but knowing her fully well on account of her close relationship to him and her early belief in Islam, while both she and her relatives were desirous that the Prophet should take her for a wife, what hindered the Prophet from marrying her? The story is so absurd that any man possessing ordinary common sense would unhesitatingly reject it.
If he had any desire for self-gratification or if he had any passion for the lady, he would not have refused her when she was offered to him as a virgin. Refusal of her hand in the first instance, and take her in marriage when being divorced she was lowered in general estimation, shows conclusively that his motive in this marriage was anything but self-gratification.
The good and noble Rev. Bosworth Smith finds nothing in this marriage to cavil at. He says “It should be remembered, however, that most of Muhammad’s marriages may be explained, at least, as much by his pity for the forlorn condition of the persons concerned, as by other motives. They were almost all of them widows who were not remarkable for their beauty of their wealth, but quite the reverse. May not this fact, and his undoubted faithfulness to Khadija till her dying day, and till he himself was fifty years of age, give us additional ground to hope that calumny or misconception has been at work in the story of Zainab" (Muhammad and Mohammedanism)
In the words of Ayesha(ra), this is how Zainab(ra) felt about her marriage with the Prophet(saw):
Zaid bin Haritha (Zainab's first husband) came to the Prophet complaining about his wife. The Prophet kept on saying (to him), "Be afraid of Allah and keep your wife." Aisha said, "If Allah's Apostle were to conceal anything (of the Quran he would have concealed this Verse." Zainab used to boast before the wives of the Prophet and used to say, "You were given in marriage by your families, while I was married (to the Prophet) by Allah from over seven Heavens."
And Thabit(narrator) recited, "The Verse:-- 'But (O Muhammad) you did hide in your heart that which Allah was about to make manifest, you did fear the people,' (Quran 33.37) was revealed in connection with Zainab and Zaid bin Haritha." (Volume 9, Book 93, Number
The marriage should have the blessings of one/both parents.
State/Society should not take any offense and acknowledge the matrimony.
None of the spouses should live to repent or convey his/her displeasure at the decision of his/her parents/guardians to bind him/her in such an alliance, long after the marriage has taken place. The husband and wife should be happy of being married with each other, till they die.
None of the three and especially the last one, seem to have been defied or negated by the marriage of the prophet with Ayesha (ra). I wouldn't mind marrying off my daughter or sister, if all the three conditions get satisfied and she doesn't live on to repent this decision taken by me on her behalf.
Now, let's start with the definition of 'a Paedophile', in our civilized times. Paedophiles are individuals for whom sexual fantasies about children occupy a very prominent place and persist over a long period of time. Some of them will never become child abusers. For others, however, this danger exists and may be considerable. Occasionally, individuals who realize that their fantasies are "abnormal" and who feel that they pose a threat to children take it upon themselves to consult a specialist.
Only when a paedophile translates his fantasies into action and sexually abuses a child has he committed an offence in the eyes of the law. Beyond puberty, the terms paedophile and paedophilia should not be used, though the mistake is widely made. Confusion arises here because, in the eyes of the law, a child is a person who has not yet reached the age of majority. This is set at 18 in many countries (though not all) and in all international conventions. Biologically, however, children become mature at a much earlier age.
There are a number of traits or aspects of paedophiles. These are not exclusive to paedophiles and indeed need not all occur in one paedophile to be apparent. As previously mentioned, paedophiles are not a homogenous group but a heterogeneous group. The traits delineated through a resulting profile, have been based on the research carried out in recent years. Lack of empathy with children, Low self esteem, Lack of impulse control, Denial, History of previous paedophile activity, Poor family relationships, Low IQ, Loneliness, depression and relationship needs or having been themselves sexually abused in the past.
My first question to these slanderers - If you accuse Muhammed(saw) of being a paedophile ( May God forbid and forgive me for using this term even hypothetically to relate it to him), then, how many of these traits, as mentioned above, are to be found in any credible or non-credible historical accounts of his life? Dig out a Single!
The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) married Hadrat Khadijah (ra) an old widowed lady. The proposal of marriage is reported to have come from her. At that time Muhammad (saw) was of 25 years while Khadijah (ra) was 40 years old. Hadrat Sauda (ra) was the second wife of the Prophet Muhammad (saw). Both were around 50 years old when they got married.
Even if we look at it from the perspective of the victim, the slander of Prophet being a paedophile falls flat on it's nose. What happens to the person who suffers from the acts of such paedophiles? Simply put, what are the short and long term health and emotional consequences on those who get abused as a child or an adolescent? 'Peters (1988)1 suggested that child sexual abuse interacts with family background to produce disruption of the child's developing self-esteem and sense of mastery of the world (agency). It is these deficits, in turn, that increase the likelihood of psychological problems in later life. This model of developmental deficits leading to social and personal vulnerabilities in adult life, which in their turn create an increased risk of mental health problems. Greater vulnerability to depression is found in women who lack an intimate and confiding relationship (Henderson and Brown 1988; Harris 1988; Romans et al. 1992). Depression is also associated with lowered self-esteem and a sense of hopelessness about one's ability to influence one's life (Browne et al. 1986, Ingram et al. 1986). Thus the social, interpersonal and sexual problems associated with a history of child sexual abuse may themselves provide fertile ground for the development of mental health problems, particularly in the area of depressive disorders.
Now let's compare these traits to the accounts of life history of Mother Ayesha(ra), the one, whom ignorant(s) consider as someone who suffered from 'child abuse' at an early age, by all civilized definitions.
It's documented that amongst the all wives of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) Hadrat Ayesha (ra) held an prominent position. Hadrat Ayesha (ra) was the daughter of the first caliph of Islam Hadrat Abu Bakr Siddique (ra). Hadrat Ayesha (ra) married at the age of 9,12 or 19 years. Accounts vary. Hadrat Ayesha (ra) was not only superior in knowledge to all the wives of the Holy Prophet (saw) but also to the various male companions of Prophet Muhammad (saw). She passed away at the age of 63 years and never once, did she complain of her marriage with the prophet neither was she displeased of her father's consent in having her married off to the Prophet(saw). Was she scared of saying so? In one of her accounts mentioned in the same book which tells her age to be around 9, she is reported to have remarked: "I looked at the full moon and compared it to the face of prophet of God and I could not decide which one was more beautiful." This is how she felt of her husband and conveyed it to others in her mature old age.
During the lifetime of their husband many women are obedient but the real test arises after the death. An opportunity then comes to practically do what they have always liked and to abstain from what they disliked but forced to by their deceased husbands. Even after the death of the Prophet, Ayesha(ra) meticulously followed all his commands and injunctions. He had preached generosity. She retained this trait to the end of her life. He had said that for women Hajj is their jihad. She made it a point to perform Hajj every year.
She was also courageous and brave; she would often visit the graveyard alone at night to pray for the departed souls. In the thick of engagements, she would go to battlefields carrying water in leather bags on her back to quench the thirst of the fighting and injured soldiers. In the battle of trenches, when the Pagans had besieged Medina and an attack from the Jews was feared she would go around to inspect the plan of defense by the Muslims. She had sought permission of the Prophet during his lifetime, to participate actively in the battles but was refused. She was tender hearted and the fear of God never left her heart. She used to keep herself busy in prayers.
And finally, for those who see prophet's life as nothing but full of wives and harem like existence, no better words can better describe the turmoil's that he faced and abject poverty and hardships he and his wives had to endure in the face of accomplishing their God given mission.
Mother Ayesha(ra) describes it in these words: "The family of Muhammad had never eaten their fill of wheat bread for three successive days since they had migrated to Medina till the death of the Prophet." (Volume 8, Book 76, Number 461)
Her final respect for the exalted character and truthfulness of her husband speaks for itself in these words:- 'Aisha said to 'Abdullah bin Az-Zubair, "Bury me with my female companions (i.e. the wives of the Prophet) and do not bury me with the Prophet in the house, for I do not like to be regarded as sanctified (just for being buried there).'' (Volume 9:Book 92:Number 428)
And what about Zainab(ra)?
Coming to the story of Zainab(ra) who was the Holy Prophet's first cousin, being the daughter of his aunt, Umaimah, daughter of ‘Abd al-Muttalib. Zainab a full blooded Arab was intensely proud of her ancestry and exalted social status. Islam had envisaged and given to the world a civilization and culture in which there were no class divisions, no hereditary nobility, no vested interests. All men and women were to be free and equal in the sight of God. The Holy Prophet wanted to start with his own family carrying into actual effect of this noble ideal of Islam. Zainab was one of the early converts to Islam, and the Holy Prophet proposed to her brother that she should be given in marriage to Zaid. Zaid (ra) was among the slaves whom the Prophet had set free in the early days of his prophetic mission. Zaid appeared to be more intelligent and more alert than the others. He belonged to a respectable family, had been kidnapped as a child and sold from place to place until he reached Makkah. Young Zaid, newly freed, saw at once that it was better to sacrifice freedom for the sake of slavery to the Prophet. When the Prophet set the slaves free, Zaid refused to be freed and asked leave to continue to live with the Prophet. He did so, and as time went on his attachment to the Prophet grew. But in the meantime Zaid's father and his uncle were on his track and they ultimately heard he was in Makkah. In Makkah they traced him in the house of the Prophet. Coming to the Prophet, they asked for the liberty of Zaid and offered to pay as much ransom as the Prophet should demand. The Prophet said Zaid was free and could go with him as he liked. He sent for Zaid and showed him his father and uncle. After the parties had met and dried their tears, Zaid's father told him that he had been freed by his kind Master and, as his mother was much afflicted by the separation, he had better return home. Zaid replied, "Father! Who does not love his parents? My heart is full of love for you and mother. But I love this man Muhammad so much that I cannot think of living elsewhere than with him. I have met you and I am glad.. But separation from Muhammad I cannot endure." Zaid's father and his uncle did their utmost to persuade Zaid to return home with them but Zaid did not agree. Upon this the Holy Prophet said, "Zaid was a freed man already, but from today he will be my son." Seeing this affection between Zaid and the Prophet, Zaid's father and uncle went back and Zaid remained with the Prophet (Hisham).
The Prophet wished to marry Zainab to Zaid who in spite of having been liberated by the Prophet and called his son, unfortunately still carried the stigma of slavery in the minds of some people. It was exactly this invidious distinction between ‘free’ and ‘slave’ which the Holy Prophet sought to remove by Zainab’s marriage with Zaid. Both Zainab and her brother were averse to this match and only yielded under pressure from the Holy Prophet. It is related that they both desired that the Holy Prophet himself should marry Zainab. In fact when marriage was first proposed to Zainab, she gave her assent under the impression that the Prophet wanted her for himself, but the Prophet insisted that she should accept Zaid.
The marriage leveled to the ground of all class distinctions and divisions. It was a practical demonstration of Islam’s noble ideal. The marriage was however, not a happy one. The marriage however ended in failure not so much due to a difference in the social status of Zainab and Zaid as to the incompatibility of their dispositions and temperaments and also due to a feeling of inferiority from which Zaid suffered. Differences arose, and Zaid expressed a desire to the Holy Prophet of divorcing Zainab. The news was grieving for the Prophet, for it was he who had insisted upon the marriage, and he therefore advised Zaid not to divorce her. He feared that people would object that a marriage which had been arranged by the Prophet was unsuccessful.
After Zainab(ra) was divorced the Holy Prophet took her in marriage, that being the wish of the lady and her relatives before her marriage with Zaid, and the Prophet was, now that the marriage arranged by him proved unsuccessful, morally bound to accept their wishes. Moreover, the Qur’an had declared against an adopted son being regarded as if he were a real son, and now there was an opportunity where the Holy Prophet could by his own example deal a death-blow to that custom. The reason is plainly given in the second part of the verse: “We gave her to thee as a wife, so that there should be no difficulty for the believers about the wives of their adopted sons.” This verse sounds self serving to many, but wait and continue to read Zainab's(ra) perspective on this marriage..
The divorced women till today, are generally looked down upon in popular estimation, and this was a case in which a freed slave divorced a lady of high birth. By also taking such a divorced woman as his wife, the false notion that divorce degraded women was removed as well. Thus by this act, to which he was morally bound because the lady had been at first offered in marriage to him, he elevated the whole class of divorced women who would otherwise suffer life-long humiliation in society.
This simple story is made the basis of a mean attack on the Holy Prophet. It is stated that the Holy Prophet, having seen Zainab by chance through a half-open door, was fascinated by her beauty, and that Zaid, having come to know of this divorced her, and then she became the Prophet's wife. That more and more prejudiced writers accept this in present age, only shows how far religious prejudice may carry "criticism." It is admitted Zainab was the daughter of the Prophet's real aunt; it is admitted that she was one of the early believers in Islam who fled to Madinah; it is admitted that the Prophet himself had arranged the marriage between Zaid and Zainab; and finally it is admitted Zainab desired, as did also her brother, before she was married to Zaid, that she should be taken in marriage by the Holy Prophet.
What was it then which prevented the Prophet from marrying her when she was a virgin and when she herself ardently desired to get married to him? Had he not seen her before? He was so closely related to her that on the face of it such a supposition is absurd. Then there was no seclusion before Zainab’s marriage with the Prophet, a fact the truth of which is attested by all writers. Having not only seen her when she was a virgin, but knowing her fully well on account of her close relationship to him and her early belief in Islam, while both she and her relatives were desirous that the Prophet should take her for a wife, what hindered the Prophet from marrying her? The story is so absurd that any man possessing ordinary common sense would unhesitatingly reject it.
If he had any desire for self-gratification or if he had any passion for the lady, he would not have refused her when she was offered to him as a virgin. Refusal of her hand in the first instance, and take her in marriage when being divorced she was lowered in general estimation, shows conclusively that his motive in this marriage was anything but self-gratification.
The good and noble Rev. Bosworth Smith finds nothing in this marriage to cavil at. He says “It should be remembered, however, that most of Muhammad’s marriages may be explained, at least, as much by his pity for the forlorn condition of the persons concerned, as by other motives. They were almost all of them widows who were not remarkable for their beauty of their wealth, but quite the reverse. May not this fact, and his undoubted faithfulness to Khadija till her dying day, and till he himself was fifty years of age, give us additional ground to hope that calumny or misconception has been at work in the story of Zainab" (Muhammad and Mohammedanism)
In the words of Ayesha(ra), this is how Zainab(ra) felt about her marriage with the Prophet(saw):
Zaid bin Haritha (Zainab's first husband) came to the Prophet complaining about his wife. The Prophet kept on saying (to him), "Be afraid of Allah and keep your wife." Aisha said, "If Allah's Apostle were to conceal anything (of the Quran he would have concealed this Verse." Zainab used to boast before the wives of the Prophet and used to say, "You were given in marriage by your families, while I was married (to the Prophet) by Allah from over seven Heavens."
And Thabit(narrator) recited, "The Verse:-- 'But (O Muhammad) you did hide in your heart that which Allah was about to make manifest, you did fear the people,' (Quran 33.37) was revealed in connection with Zainab and Zaid bin Haritha." (Volume 9, Book 93, Number
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by phoenix » Wed Dec 26, 2007 12:10 pm
Can people please make comments as this is a forum . . . not just use it to download a lot of sections of books . . . 
Now, my comment: . . . . although the writings in the Bible and Quran may all be hunky-dorey, lovely nice things to say and do in life. . . . . .The sad truth is, the interpretation of these books and the FEAR of what punishment a person can suffer if one does not follow these teachings, is the scary bit.
Now, my comment: . . . . although the writings in the Bible and Quran may all be hunky-dorey, lovely nice things to say and do in life. . . . . .The sad truth is, the interpretation of these books and the FEAR of what punishment a person can suffer if one does not follow these teachings, is the scary bit.
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by rajput49 » Wed Dec 26, 2007 12:13 pm
ONCE QUESTION IS POSED WE SHOULD EXPLAIN IN DETAIL.WE DONT PPL TO MISUNDERSTAND THINGS AS MOST OF TIMES PPL THINK ABOUT FAITH.ONCE WE ARE SCARED OF LIFE AFTER AND PUNISHMENT WHY NOT PREPARE OURSELVES FOR THAT TIME SO ANY CHANCE OF THAT SCARY PUNISHMENT WILL NOT B THERE
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by QAMERSLAND » Wed Dec 26, 2007 12:42 pm
ppl don't like to have detailed answer to know the truth because they actually don't want to understand. they just like to malign Islam bcoz they are misguided by some individuals on u tube and anti Islamic website.
why dont you visit?
www.islamtomorrow.com
www.irf.net
www.cyprus-islam.co.nr
why dont you watch?
Peace Tv @
www.islambox.tv
why you dont download?
http://www.irf.net/book2.zip
http://www.irf.net/book3.zip
http://www.irf.net/islamandterrorism.zip
it mght help you out from darkness, so you may recognize the truth in light.
you can ask a question in one line sentence but to answer you need long time.
are you the one who like to ask questions but scare to get convincing answers? so you may revert to the right path?
why dont you visit?
www.islamtomorrow.com
www.irf.net
www.cyprus-islam.co.nr
why dont you watch?
Peace Tv @
www.islambox.tv
why you dont download?
http://www.irf.net/book2.zip
http://www.irf.net/book3.zip
http://www.irf.net/islamandterrorism.zip
it mght help you out from darkness, so you may recognize the truth in light.
you can ask a question in one line sentence but to answer you need long time.
are you the one who like to ask questions but scare to get convincing answers? so you may revert to the right path?
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by phoenix » Wed Dec 26, 2007 12:55 pm
QAMERSLAND wrote:ppl don't like to have detailed answer to know the truth because they actually don't want to understand. they just like to malign Islam bcoz they are misguided by some individuals on u tube and anti Islamic website.
why dont you visit?
www.islamtomorrow.com
www.irf.net
why dont you watch?
Peace Tv @
www.islambox.tv
does it show that you are a knowledgeable person?
you can ask a question in one line sentence but to answer you need long time.
are you the one who like to ask questions but scare to get convincing answers? so you may revert to the right path?
I don't mind hearing answers. I relish them. But I want to hear people's opinions not just propaganda or long passages from books that I can delve into myself.
There is no hurry to interpret or discuss at length any issues . . .but you have to remain open minded and not come in with a preconceived idea that you have all the answers and they are in ONE particular book!
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by QAMERSLAND » Wed Dec 26, 2007 1:12 pm
yes open mind and also capable to distinguish between right and wrong.
when the truth is heard like Falsehood, Falsehood will Perish because Falsehood by its nature bound to Perish. (AL Quran)
Speak the truth and truth shall free you ( Bible)
we should discuss in details before jump to the next topic.
everyone has right to accept or reject after listening truth and falsehood but let the truth to be heard. no matter who is on truth, let the ppl to decide.
thanks for understanding
when the truth is heard like Falsehood, Falsehood will Perish because Falsehood by its nature bound to Perish. (AL Quran)
Speak the truth and truth shall free you ( Bible)
we should discuss in details before jump to the next topic.
everyone has right to accept or reject after listening truth and falsehood but let the truth to be heard. no matter who is on truth, let the ppl to decide.
thanks for understanding
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by DINOS SKALIOTIS » Wed Dec 26, 2007 2:33 pm
rajput49 wrote:PHOENIX THAKNS FOR GETTING THE POINT ISLAM IS OPEN FOR ANY TEST SCIENTIFIC,MORAL,ETC BUT ESTABLISHED LAWS OF SCIENCE SHOULD BE TESTED AGAINST QURNACI LAWS NOT THEORIES TAKE ANY THING MENTIONED IN QURAN AND TEST IT OF UR OWN.WE CAN CHALLENGE U WILL FIND IT IN ACCORDANCE WITH SCIENCE AND MORAL VALUES.
the quran was written 100`s of years after the bible! the bible was basically copied thats why there are so many similarities, except the quran just has a lot more shiney camels and virgins
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