Viewpoint wrote:brother lets put it this way if loving your country means your a nationalist then I am guilty, if being realistic is being a nationalist then again I am guilty, if caring for my own people is being a nationalist the ok you are right again, if voting yes in the referendum is being a nationalist then you are right yet again, but its not me that should wake up, its you dear brother, how long will it take you 30++++ 2, 5 10, years to realize that we will never agree on anything, this forum is a good example of how far away from a solution we really are. The likelihood of finding a solution that will make both sides confident enough to commit themselves is so remote that considering partition has a realistic alternative that I really feel could work for us all and put an end to years years years years years of negotiations that result in nothing.
Sorry to barge into your conversation ...
Viewpoint, I acknowledge that your sentiments are heart felt, you are neither a thief nor a nationalist nor any other epithet that one may have hoisted on you. If I understand you correctly you are placing a premium on peace, meant as lack of tension, lack of quarrels, lack of violence.
From your viewpoint, I can see how the current situation, or even better a normalisation of the current situation, seems like an optimal solution. I respect where you are coming from.
Let me now express to you where I come from.
For me, the primary motive for wanting re-unification originated when I was working in Limassol a few years ago, and had some TC patients. It was my first real contact with Turkish Cypriots, and I felt a longing - a sense that GCs and TCs have so much to offer to each other, that they complement each other in so many ways, that it is a great pity to be so far apart.
Personally, I am not afraid of tension. Tension is what we have when we try to learn to live with someone for the first time, it is inevitable that we will quarrel, speak at cross purposes, behave in a prejudiced manner ... until we get to know each other better, and learn to respect each other's sensitivities and priorities. I see, for instance, people like Agios Amvrosios, who come to this forum for the first time with nothing but a desire to preach and quarrel, but gradually develop a capacity for respectful dialogue ...
You are right when you say that our leaders have been "negotiating" fruitlessly for thirty years now. This is a sad truth. We as the people, however, have only began to communicate very recently. Gradually the walls that have been keeping us artificially apart are falling, gradually we are beginning to understand the reality of our conflicted but also brotherly co-existence ...