DT, I joined this forum long time ago. When I did I was with the (apparently wrong) impression TCs didn't really want the occupation and they were oppressed by the Turkish army. I was very disappointed when I realized that in fact the majority of TCs support the actions of the Turkish army in Cyprus. Soon I realized that people will put their interests above everything else. And lets face it, if the 18% keeps 36% of land and they are promised that will be able to keep that just for themselves, then of course they will believe partition is in their interests.
This is not just about TCs. This is about human nature. Take those that profited from the stock market scandal and they got rich on the expense of others. Do you see those people voluntarily giving back the richness they gained? They can have friends and aquitances among those that were cheated, but still that would not change a thing.
I see myself as a realist (but not as a defeatist). I know we are the weak side, but at the same time I know what are the only ways we can have a possibility to gain our land back. Unfortunately making friendships is not one of them. It can be great from every other respect, and it can not harm, but it will not give us our land back. I believe Get Real was already aware of this fact even before he proposed the meeting.
And about the "hard line" part I will agree with you. It is not as if we decided on something that suits us and only us and we keep a hard line about it. What we want is universally accepted principles like those of human rights and democracy, like they exist in all other modern democracies in the world. Keeping a "hard line" on such principles is not wrong. What is wrong is the contrary: making compromises and discounts on things such as human rights and democracy.