Hi Turkish Cypriot, I'm very sorry about what your Mother went through, It must have been very painful for her having to relive those memories....
As far as I know, during that period there were many armed groups fighting each other on both sides, some fought each other for positions only and did not involve civilians whilst others (The extremist minority) did involve civilians, and I believe that at the hands of these extremist minorities on both sides innocent Greek and Turkish Cypriots suffered. (Please anyone correct me if I'm wrong. I’m no expert of this period, I'm still learning myself..).
However I think that one has to remember that being the majority there will would always have been more GC extremists than TC extremists and that because of this more innocent Turkish Cypriots suffered at the hands of extremists than Greek Cypriots. You will always be able to inflict more pain on others with more men....(Although this may not be the full story, but I believe it makes up part of what happened during the inter-communal fighting period.)
I think it's when the suggestion is made that Makarios and the Goverment were somehow attempting to systematically ethnically cleanse or 'genocide' Turkish Cypriots that gets some people annoyed...
I acknowledge (and feel shame) that during that period many Turkish Cypriots suffered at the hands of some Greek Cypriots, but I cannot acknowledge that the people who were ruling the Country (All GC at that time, as far as I know..) were attempting to rid Cyprus of it's Turkish Cypriot population...it doesn't add up with many of the facts...
(I think I've come up with a new phrase, let me see if you can possible guess what it could be... )